The Solution to my Fluttershy Waifu Depression Problems · 5:41pm Jul 11th, 2016
I know a lot of people have suggested therapy to me as a solution to my depression, and my problem with Fluttershy.
Here's the truth... I'm scared. I really am. I just don't know what that's going to do for me. Some person's going to talk to me, maybe let me vent a little bit, and then try to train my mind to block these certain signals? I'm not sure what it'll entail, and I don't know what it'll do for me. It just doesn't make sense.
Here's the other thing, I've tried therapy before. I have done it before as a way to cope with depression and domestic frustrations. You know what happened? Nothing. It did nothing for me.
What will therapy do for me with my Fluttershy problems? I know she's not real. I know she'll never be mine. I know it's an impossible endeavor to love her. Is there a process to make me... not love someone anymore?
I'm sorry, I'm just wracking my brain because I have to give a speech later, and I don't want to.
I think the only solution to my Fluttershy problem is to find her in real life. I don't mean literally, but symbolically if you will. Meet the girl of my dreams. The one who is everything I want in a companion. Maybe not everything, but a girl with many of the traits I find attractive. Sweet, kind, adorably demure, beautiful, caring, generous, and who will love me for who I am.
I'll probably never meet her. She's probably already taken, or I've scared her off already. But if by some miracle I do meet her, and I get a chance, you better believe I'll treat her like a princess. I'll give her flowers, candy, stuffed animals, love letters, and endless amounts of affection. Cuddle with her, protect her, take care of her, show her off to my friends and make them jealous, brush her hair, give her kisses, and make sure she feels loved and beautiful 24/7. She's my princess, and deserves nothing but the best.
I would give her everything, because I love her with all my heart.
That's what I would do if I had a girl all to myself. It'll probably never happen, though. That's why I wrote Loveliest of Trees and Sweet & Delicate in the first place.
I don't know. It's kind of stupid, so I'll just stop.
Have you heard of the phrase "the perfect is the enemy of the good"? Holding out for perfection can stop you seeing things which are good enough… more than "good enough" even… pretty damn great.
You may see Fluttershy as perfect, but she also doesn't exist. There are real people out there, who might not be the same as her, but will nevertheless have some of the qualities that you find attractive in her, and maybe some other attributes which you'd never really thought about, but will realize you like.
Basically, what the guy above me says. I'm sorry, I just don't know what I can say, other than even if its not a doctor, I think you should find someone to talk to
I don't know if there's a way to make you stop loving her, and to be frank that's not what either of us want. I just want you to be able to know that she'll never be real, and be at peace with that. I hope you do find the girl of your dreams and everything works out. I'm being a bit of a hypocrite by saying this, but I don't think therapy is something to be scared of (even though I don't ever want to go there) I don't think anything they do will change the way you think as drastically as you fear at least not if they're good at their job.
I'm sorry that nothing you've tried so far has worked, I hope you'll keep trying and/or find something that will work. I hope you have a nice day.
I wish I'd something sagely here to say here, but I think Vitalspark said it all really.
4084474
This. This person is amazing. Listen to them.
Here's the thing,; when it comes to love, both finding it and embracing it, repetition is key. Now, I know that sounds silly, but don't stop reading yet.
Just don't give up, friend. Surrendering is the only way you can lose this battle. And if what I've seen and read means anything, you'll really treat that girl like a princess. You'll make her as happy as can be, and isn't that a reason to keep on fighting?
The world is full of people, from the big to the small, the kind to the not so much. Personalities range over a wide scale and finding perfection, as VitalSpark said, is a hazard to your chances. However, don't lose hope; within people, you can find that kindness that you so love.
-Inkheart
My two cents:
Therapy only works if you buy into it, and allow yourself to follow through with it. Even then it may not work. What's good about it is that you have it out in the open and you awknowlegde it for what it is. You have a name for it and you can verbalize it. After that it's a matter of creating coping skills to set in place to help you deal with things.
As for your Fluttershy thing. Their is nothing wrong with having preferences and or standards, as long as they are realistic. Building something so rigid that it's impossible for anyone to meet them is unfair to you and them.
Put yourself out there! You may get burned but don't get discouraged, learn from it. Don't go looking for love, go looking for social interaction. Once people get to know you and what your about they will see how fun and friendly you are and will see how much love you have in your heart, which I can tell there is a lot.
When you do meet a girl, don't treat her like a princess. I feel that really is a bad trend and counter productive. That's NOT to say don't respect her and be courteous. Absolutely do that. Treat her like a person, not a girl not a princess.
I sorta ranted there, sorry. However I stand by what so said. I can speak from experience in this. Took a shot and did something out of my comfort zone thirteen years ago and now married with two kids.
Hope this helps.
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Having never been in this place I don't think I can really help you here. But what I can do is tell you what I think. You're a cool guy. You write well. I'm sure there are many girls out there who would suit you well. As Vital said, they won't be Fluttershy, but who knows? Maybe you'll find someone even better someday. Don't give up hope.
4084474 Your words are some of the truest words on this site, if not on the entire goddamned internet.
I'm with what 4084474 said. I love Rainbow Dash and I'm very aware that she doesn't exists, but I still think she deserves being happy. Rainbow doesn't deserves to suffer.
But if you're sad, I will cheer you up my friend.
I don't know what to say other than what has already been said by VitalSpark, Eon333MS, Quillian Inkheart, Sipioc, AlchemicalRainbow, and TrustyRusty, except for the fact that I hope you get over your depression soon. I may not personally know you, but it saddens me to hear that you're going through a shitty point in your life. Just know we all love you, and we all hope you get better soon.
