I need help and advice. · 5:13pm Jan 13th, 2020
I have came to the realization that if I don't abandon my family my life will be stuck in the same place. I am a 19 year old who doesn't have access to a car, job or driver's license because of my parents. I have parents that don't care about me enough to listen to me. They have kept me from getting even a driver's permit and due to this I can't get a job because none of them can drive me to my job because I can't trust them based on past experiences. I got into a fight with my father this morning because he couldn't be reliable again. He started to talk about respect and so I told him off. I told him that we don't really have a good record of showing respect towards each other. He of course got pissed and so I said one last thing to him and that was respect is a two way street. My father and mother are divorced and so my mother of course has remarried incept the man she married was an ass hole. Me and my stepfather have fight like cats and dogs but it's very rare that my mother would take my side. My mother tries to stay on both sides and as you probably understand that doesn't stop my stepfather from fucking up my life royally. I was supposed to learn how to drive when I was 18 but as you know that didn't happen because I was supposed to learn from my stepfather who was barely home. It reached my 19th birthday and I was promised to get to learn how to drive as long as I had a job and could pay for my own insurance. I know that this was just a way my stepfather could make money off of me. Although I saw through the lie my mother didn't and that's when I realized I couldn't get through to my mother. Oh and this is after my mother found out about my stepfather cheating on her mind you. Anyways I saw through the deception and I called him out on it but nothing I said got through to my mother and so I started to realize something. My stepfather is a major asshole but he's not stupid. The reason he won't teach me how to drive until I can pay for my own insurance is because he knows that I can't pay for my own insurance because I don't have reliable transportation to and from my job. My stepfather knows that and so he is intentionally trying to keep me from driving. As for my father well he told me to get a job and go buy a car in order to stop depending on him even know I have told him countless times that my stepfather won't teach me how to drive unless I get a job and pay for insurance. All three of my parents want me to stop depending on them but they don't want to even bat an eye at the problem of the fact that they're not reliable. I am going to die unless I abandoned my parents but I still love them and even if I wanted to leave them I have no where to go. I just am tired of all of it.
I didn't realise the severity of your post before this until now. I'm so sorry you are stuck in this situation. I don't know how much help I'll be, but I'll try to help to the best of my abilities. Maybe you have friends that would be more than willing to help you where you live? Maybe one of your older friends knows how to drive and you could ask them. Also, you are an adult, so technically you can make your own choices now. If you don't have friends, make some. You don't deserve all this negativity, you really don't.
You could try a homeless shelter(Hey, I'm just trying to come up with ideas for how to help, I promise you I wouldn't want to stay in a homeless shelter either.). I don't know how else to help out... You could do some research, I can help with research if you want. Well, that's about all I know how to help. Hopefully, what I have said does help. Again, I'm sorry that you have to go through this.
I'm in the same spot, only I'm not legally allowed to live on my own yet, minus the parents being divorced thing
Sounds like you're talking yourself into circles.
Stop and take a deep breath.
Okay, so you're not in a good situation, but that doesn't mean there isn't a way out. You're stuck in a cycle, now find the break.
As someone already mentioned, you have Internet access. Use it to your advantage. Can't get to a physical job? Get a digital one. There are many ways to legitimately earn money over the web.
Do you have your learner permit? If not, get it. Hike to the DMV, if you have to. Just having it may be the incentive for other family members to let you drive. Also, you're an adult now, you should be carrying some form of ID.
If your parents aren't going to help support you, then find others who can. Have you no other family members? older friends? friends' parents who can, at the very least, help get you started?
The point is, you can break free from this and come out on top. It's just up to you to settle down, formulate a plan and stick to it.
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I didn't say my life was worse I said it was bad I know plenty of people who have lived worst lives and I have always fought for other people so what I went through wouldn't happen to someone else. I am sorry about everything that happened to you but I try to help people for that specific reason. Tell me when I was the editor for your story did you even once here me ask you for money? No! How many editors on this site would edit people stories for free? I always had a reason for just wanting be mentioned in your stories. The real reason is to show people that kindness is still in this world. I have always fought against everything that I believe in and more. I have done many things like sacrifice my own life for another but still I don't believe that's enough. People have had it worse than me but that doesn't mean my problems aren't important. They are important just as your problem is.
Dude. I really fucking wish I could help you. Thing is, that I only turn 18 in Feb this year. If I were near you I would give you some money to hold onto for when ya need it since I got the money as Christmas gifts. I don't really need it right now so I would be fine with it. Besides that I cannot be here for whenever you want to talk. Sorry I can't really help
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You are both good and bad. If you've been in the rough then you know what it's like. So don't be an incentive asshole. Teach those who do not know in the right way. Being an asshole can majorly change a person in this perdicerment. Give tips, suggestions, anything helpful. What you say in the very beginning is just straight horse shit. You should be ashamed. You don't know anyone's but your own mentality. This can and will affect people differently. Learn to feel you dingus
Also get that you had a rough life. I feel for you in that. That however does not excuse you. People are different. Lives are different. No-one is the exact same. What happened to you and how you came out cannot and won't be the same as someone else. PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT.
At the end you somewhat redeemed yourself
Boredauthor817 did it right
Oof. Sorry you gotta go through this.....
I'll be praying for you! Good luck.
I really wish I could help in some way.
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Thank you for sticking up for me but I had it taken care of.
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If that is what you wish so be it, but I am a man of love. I'm a passafist, but I will always stick up for others. It's who I am. I am there no matter what if I have the capabilities to do so
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I am just like you but I believe that everyone has the right to have their own opinion. I am not saying you aren't right but what I am saying is that it's best to help them understand.
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I try to. That why I hope they reply to me so we can have a discussion. I love to talk things out. I love discussing. I'm also a bit of a philosopher as well
Post the story on r/entitledparents.
i guess i am not to late to the party .listen man ,religiousely speaking what you are doing is wrong but if you want to look past morality and ethics the best bet is to leave BUT keep a hub or a line of private communication .who you choose to let be present on that line of communication is your own choice.father and or mother (doubt youll ask your jack-ass ta mean step father).look man its 2020 .our economy is fucked up .the price for homes has jacked and the search for a job is pointless .its better to start a damn job then to find one at this point . what exactly is your dream job in life and what is your capabilities.brotehr your not going to get a house anytime soon with the current prices for home markets
what exactly is your dream job in life and what is your capabilities
and people call our generation lazy
FUCK YOU BOOMERS
I really don't know what to tell you, situations like this are very complicated. I would say just do your best to pull yourself out of this situation with other people in your life, then don't cut ties with your family if you can as that can lead to regret down the line
I don't know what it's like, but your best bet would probably be to leave, I would suggest asking a friend for a place to live and getting a short term job close by that you don't need a car to get there in time for.
Yes, it might lead to regret, but that is a problem for the future, not the present.
wolf this situation seems like a catch 22. but my advise part of it anyway has already been mentioned there must be AT LEAST one person ether the same age or older then you maybe a schoolmate, or even a neighbor, you can talk to about driving you know bounce questions of them. ask them to pick up books from the drivers license place or even look them up on the computer, learn what you can where you can how you can you know. as for your family issues you know you may have to get away from them it simply isn't fair for them to treat you this way. it hurts I know you see I've had issues with my family my mother in particular our relationship has been rocky at best. but let me make this clear she NEVER caused me harm physically emotionally well I mean you can't have issues like we had and sill have to a point, and not suffer emotionally. but I said all that to say this, I had to stay away from her for awhile, but now I'd like to think we have a closer relationship then ever. so maybe it can help you too. but my position never got as bad as yours is (no offense) nothing hurts like having a parent that make you feel like they don't care. keep you chin up my friend, I'm here to talk if you need maybe you need to vent go ahead I can take it. I'll be praying for you too. (sorry it so long) hope this helps