Someone else is living my nightmare: fundraiser echo boost. · 1:09am Feb 8th, 2023
There are seven stages of dementia, and I couldn't tell you exactly where my mother was on the chart before she died. Stage 4, at the very least. We had a few near-confirmed stops in Stage 5 when a urinary tract infection was in progress, or on a truly bad day. (The bad days were becoming more frequent.) I was trying to get guardianship because Stage 6 had been previewed by truly severe infections, and... it was also in sight. The slope only goes downhill.
Dawnbreez brought this to my attention in the 'verse Discord server.
It's the story of a man whose mother reached Stage 7.
He stayed with her all the way.
Then she died.
(ETA: the court case was found. There's a screenshot here.)
He's not part of the MLP community, and perhaps that means my bell-ringing will have a lot less impact. (Not that I ever have much impact.) But he's an old Doom modder. And as the person who wrote FlutterDoomshy... who watched their own parent going down the slope, and dreaded the day when the last stage took over... this is my own 'too close'.
He has a case against the county. A good lawyer would take it on contingency. But that doesn't stabilize anything right now. It doesn't get him off the streets.
So the Doom community is trying to help through his GoFundMe. Something which was set up long before this happened, for a different cause, but... it's what's available.
This is the GoFundMe. It's almost at the original goal. As always, the decision is yours.
I may have some trouble sleeping tonight.
What was it that y'all told me, during the dark times? That every day would be the worst day until the last day?
There was a last day for him. And then the next nightmare began.
I'm on SS & can't send anything
I would if I could.
It's called "trial by media"
It's one if the downsides of the 1st amendment
I swear, half the reason I read your blogs is that being able to say "There are people worse off than me." is all that keeps me going.
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...the media had nothing to do with this case, though. His life wasn't ruined by a news article, it was ruined by being stuck in jail for 10 months awaiting trial, which left him unable to pay the bills on his apartment and car.
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OK
Possibly, I am somewhat confused about this. I somehow got the idea that the police kept him in jail so long because the local news media kept saying he was guilty.
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It's possible it was just run-of-the-mill court delays.
(There's also any number of different people involved in the process of going to court who could have asked for more time. You know, to make sure they have everything they need to put this guy in jail for the thing he totally did...)
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Well, yes. Here in Arizona, the majority of people who are in jail are there simply because they are too poor to make bail.
When I was young, I believed that was a violation of the "equal protection of the laws" clause of the 14th amendment (because it treats rich different than poor).
I miss the days when I always saw things in black & white. Now, so much is Grey.
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I mean, there's been a push to get rid of bail as a system for exactly that reason.
(Not that it would've helped in this case--despite what certain politicians claim, the only people who are given the option to post bail in the first place are people accused of non-violent crimes, whom the judge has already deemed to not be a flight risk. A lot of people would be better off if they didn't have to pay bail, but Laz Rojas would still have been stuck in prison awaiting trial.)