I just wrote an email to my principal- · 12:57am Sep 16th, 2022

Hello, Mr. (Principal),
I apologise in advance if I seem angry as I write this, as I do feel slightly cheated. I am also very nervous directly addressing the Principal with this matter.
I was recently reading through the (School District) Policy Handbook, more specifically Policy 3281, and I found this:
"School employees should not disclose a student's transgender status or sexual orientation to other individuals, regardless of setting, including the other school personnel or (in the case of middle school, junior high school, and high school students) the student’s parents/guardians, unless they have a legitimate need to know or unless the student has authorized such disclosure. Action in violation of such student confidentiality may subject an employee to discipline, up to and including possible termination and for certificated personnel, a report to the Professional Standards Commission.
When contacting the parent/guardian of a transgender student, school personnel should use the student’s legal name and the pronoun corresponding to the student’s gender assigned at birth unless the student or parent/guardian has specified otherwise."
I am going to break this down as kindly as possible, as I am trying to address an issue that has been nagging at my mind for a long period of time now.
"School employees should not disclose a student's transgender status ... to other individuals, regardless of setting, including ... the student's parents/guardians ... "
This is fairly self-explanatory. I know all efforts were taken, and I do really appreciate that. I do, however, have a difficulty with the next section I am about to address.
"When contacting the parent/guardian of a transgender student, school personnel should use the student’s legal name and the pronoun corresponding to the student’s gender assigned at birth unless the student ... has specified otherwise."
Now, this is where the issue arises. I was told that because of the 504 meeting coming up, I could no longer use my preferred name and pronouns at school because of the law. I have read through this many times, and I feel cheated and unfairly treated. I was using school as a safe space to express myself due to complications at home, and I remember noting that you had said, "If we use your other name, we'd be lying to your parents." Or something along those lines.
Also, doesn't "contacting the parent/guardian" include meetings? I feel as though it should. It seems very unfair for LGBTQ students such as myself who struggle with transgender and non-binary prejudice every day to be treated as though they cannot have a safe environment at school to express themselves, despite the very top of the section stating, "The Board believes in fostering an educational environment that is safe and free ... for all students, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression."
I would like to say that I do not feel fairly treated in this exchange, and would whole-heartedly and gratefully appreciate any feedback or rebuttals with proofs that show that you were correct in your statements.
Again, I apologise if I seem as though I am being very insensitive. I have put this as lightly as I could, and I seek no confrontation. I have also written this as professionally as possible to maintain an air of friendliness, camaraderie, and business.
With best possible regards,
Felicity April H.