Not a stalker · 11:10pm Jul 28th, 2015

There are some bits of information I try to gather about my friends. This post is to explain what, and why.

1) Public Name (required)
I want something to call you by when referring to you in public. It doesn't have to be your real name. Just something I can call you. It can be your username, or anything I feel comfortable saying in public. I feel special when it's not the username, because it feels more personal, but I totally don't mind if it is your username.

2) Private Name (for PMs) (optional)
I would love something special to call you when talking to you in private. Again, it doesn't have to be your real name. Just something I can call you. It can be anything you want that doesn't sound mean to say. I feel super-extra-special when I have a name just for me to call you, because it feels more personal, but again: I totally don't mind if you just want me to use your public name. Because of it's private nature, if you want to share one, it should be told in PM, and I will never repeat it in public.

3) Gender identity pronoun (optional)
He, She, It, Other, None, Decline. This is solely for the purpose of referring to you when talking to other people. if unstated, I would say, for example: S/He wrote this awesome story! If stated, I would use, for example: She made me feel better with a hug!

4) Birthday (optional)
I love to wish people happy birthdays. Month alone is requires for this, month and day is greatly preferred.

5) Year of birth (optional)
This is almost entirely so I can wish you an age along with your birthday wish. The other reason I like to have this is so I can get a general feel for the age range of my friends.

6) Time zone (optional)
This is one that scares people the most, for some reason. 90% of the time, you can't be located by your time zone. It is a slice of the earth that runs from the north pole to the south pole. There is 1/24 of the planet that is in your time zone. The reason I like to know this is so I can tell what time it is where you are. Mostly so I can accurately wish you a good morning, or good night. It also helps for when people say "I'll be back on in the evening", or something similar, so I can figure about when that would be my time.

7) Daylight Saving Time (optional)
Relating to number 6, this just helps me to figure what time it is where you are.

That's it. I make other notes based on things you say, so I may ask if you are having fun with your new girlfriend, or send you a filly Luna pic because you love them, or avoid complements about your skills because they make you uncomfortable, or a hundred other things that constitute taking an interest in your friends lives.

I also want to point out that I don't ask for information I haven't provided myself. I have answered all 7 of these in public here. In case you missed them:
1) Max, but I'm not opposed to you giving me a nickname of my own (they make me feel special)
2) Max, but I'm not opposed you want to call me something special in private
3) She
4) 10/13
5) 1987
6) UTC-6 (EDIT1507281732: I'm in MDT, not MST)
7) YES

I am not a stalker. I have logical, reasonable, friendly, reasons for asking for what I do, and I only require a public name, which can be your username. (I do need something to call you)

Edit 1507281715:
There is one other thing that is sometimes required: If you want to talk about anything sexual, I will require you to confirm in PM that you are 18+. This is both because I refuse to speak sexually with someone who doesn't claim to be an adult, and to protect myself legally, since you cannot delete your PMs to me, and I then have proof you claimed to be an adult if it turns out you were lying, and Law happens.

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