This fic does so well at showing how big a deal we make out of sex... when it's really not. Literally every sexually reproducing creature has sex, shocking, I know. It's a completely normal, healthy, part of life that isn't just for continuing the species (kinda moot in this case). But our culture makes this big thing of something that's a completely normal part of an advancing relationship, something fun you can do with someone you trust, or if you feel lucky even just something wild you can do with a total stranger (I know perfectly well why society sees that last one as a big deal, you can take precautions but you're still rolling the dice on a few big things).
Also the whole virginity thing... technically it's a physical thing in some women (although depending on the woman your hymen could be torn by stretching), but virginity isn't some special magical thing that you lose or can give to someone, it's fake! A completely made up binary state invented by ignorant people THOUSANDS of years ago as a tool to oppress women by saying that they were somehow inferior and less "pure" as soon as they became sexually active. Hell, men "having" virginity is a contemporary phenomenon. For centuries it only mattered with women, again so that people could arbitrarily see them as "less" for having the gall to have sex (or in a less negative light to see young girls as "pure" for the purpose of certain rituals).
Ugh... sorry for the rant. A certain horrible event happened yesterday (Nov. 8, 2016) that has my blood up.
To finally shut up, I'll sum with: I hate the puritans, and I love this fic.
Is that all I think of about my virginity? A gift?
Personally, while it IS just a state to describe not having any sort of sexual intercourse before, I view virginity or the first time in general as something special that you 'give' to someone else. I honestly don't know how to describe it, but it's the reason why I hate rape fics on this site all the more, because the rapists 'stole' that something special which the victim can never get back. Burning Desires is one example of such a fic, though the overall story is pretty good.
Hooray for problems I'll never have!
#foreveralone
Good Chapter. Reminds me of how my first time went. Except there isn't fighting, or blood.
This fic does so well at showing how big a deal we make out of sex... when it's really not. Literally every sexually reproducing creature has sex, shocking, I know. It's a completely normal, healthy, part of life that isn't just for continuing the species (kinda moot in this case). But our culture makes this big thing of something that's a completely normal part of an advancing relationship, something fun you can do with someone you trust, or if you feel lucky even just something wild you can do with a total stranger (I know perfectly well why society sees that last one as a big deal, you can take precautions but you're still rolling the dice on a few big things).
Also the whole virginity thing... technically it's a physical thing in some women (although depending on the woman your hymen could be torn by stretching), but virginity isn't some special magical thing that you lose or can give to someone, it's fake! A completely made up binary state invented by ignorant people THOUSANDS of years ago as a tool to oppress women by saying that they were somehow inferior and less "pure" as soon as they became sexually active. Hell, men "having" virginity is a contemporary phenomenon. For centuries it only mattered with women, again so that people could arbitrarily see them as "less" for having the gall to have sex (or in a less negative light to see young girls as "pure" for the purpose of certain rituals).
Ugh... sorry for the rant. A certain horrible event happened yesterday (Nov. 8, 2016) that has my blood up.
To finally shut up, I'll sum with: I hate the puritans, and I love this fic.
Is that all I think of about my virginity? A gift?
Personally, while it IS just a state to describe not having any sort of sexual intercourse before, I view virginity or the first time in general as something special that you 'give' to someone else. I honestly don't know how to describe it, but it's the reason why I hate rape fics on this site all the more, because the rapists 'stole' that something special which the victim can never get back. Burning Desires is one example of such a fic, though the overall story is pretty good.
I really don't get the virginity angst, but the story is interesting nonetheless.
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It’s Twilight. It’d be surprising if she didn’t overthink and waffle when given too much room and time to think.