So yesterday when I and my family were going to my maternal grandfather's funeral, I saw some family members I had a falling out with three years ago which caused me to feel a little angry, but I didn't mind them being there.

However, I did say a comment that wasn't meant to be heard by anyone except me. However, my father heard me and told me to "leave it", understandable, I had no intention of causing a scene as I genuinely believed they had the right to see their father off.

However, I don't know what went wrong, if it was the tone of my voice or what but he kept telling me to "leave it" and he did sound irritated. However, I was getting annoyed that he was repeating it. (I am autistic and dyslexic and potentially have Bipolar Disorder) so eventually I told him to f-off and he did listen.

After the service, I went out to get a cigarette or two, trying to calm down. Later, he came out with some of the stuff we had brought with us and told me to get in the car. I got a bit annoyed and told him that he couldn't and shouldn't have treated me that way inside the service and said that if he does it to someone he doesn't know, he could be in danger. (I didn't expressedly say that, but I hinted at it.)

So he and I got into a verbal argument, until I got so annoyed I spat at him and he spat back which caused a fight between us. I still had a cigarette in hand and burned his cheek (I don't remember if it was intentional or not) and he pushed me against the tree. We threw words at each other and he essentially called me a disgrace flat out.

I made my way to the car where I was still angry and unintentionally told everyone angrily to get in the car, he marched up to me and pinned me to the ground and began to choke me. My mam and grandmother tried to stop him but he didn't stop until one of grandmother's sisters literally demanded what was going on.

He decided to walk home (my parents never wanted to get married so he only lives with us for the winter and sometimes summer holidays.) So after we did some shopping and made food I went to my room to drink some beer.

An hour or so later, he came inside the apartment and my mother asked if he wanted food. Not even a few seconds later, he begins to scream at my mother, discriminating her before he stormed into my room and yelled in my face.

He was yelling about how everything was my fault and I had no right to say this and that and gave me a few slaps and punches. From what the police said, he was drunk. He ripped down my curtains and opened my window.

My mam and grandmother tried to stop him as he punched me and smacked me. I was defenseless on the bed. I had heard how he said earlier that I was lucky to be alive.

My mam told her to hit her instead and he did, once. He only did it once and then he forced her on her knees (nothing happened, I assume he wanted to feel power)

He had at some point smacked the beer out of my hand and taken my phone throwing it to the floor. He also took my laptop and literally smashed it over and over on the drawer.

My grandmother called the police over. During this he made comments about how he'd take her to Ireland and kill her.

The police arrested him but he had at some point tried to flee. I was questioned and I gave my statements. He doesn't have an home in the country I live in except for where I currently live but he isn't allowed to enter without an police officer (which he won't be able to until Monday but a police officer will be there at all times.)

So yeah, that's the story of what happened yesterday.

I think he drank before the funeral, which allowed his suppressed horseapples to come out. Just my guess though.

Sometimes, you have to say good riddance to bad trash.

That's honestly all I can say while remaining civil.

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Agreed. Some people just aren't worth the stress of keeping them in your social circle.

It's good to understand the situation more. A small part of his side I can understand (even if I don't agree) but there's so much from him that's totally unhinged.
It's good that he requires police escort to go to your house, and hopefully he won't be back. Even better if this results in him not being allowed back in the country. As you said, he doesn't have a home there so there's no reason for him to stay.

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Immediate family are rarely worth the hassle or aggravation of acknowledging they exist
Extended are proof of concept of "you can pick your friends but not your family"
IF you find one of either that's worth it, TREASURE THEM

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Sometimes family brings the worst out of you.

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Sorry to hear that all happened. Even though it's not child abuse, it's still wrong. My late grandfather was verbally abusive towards us, he once told me that my mom and dad considered having an abortion when they got pregnant with me. That's just plain wrong. We never got physical, but there were times where I wish I could have, but I knew if I got physical with him, I wouldn't have a place to live anymore. My grandmother once basically said, 'screw this,' got in the car, and drove off. By the time we got in contact with her, she had already made it to North Carolina, and we live in southern Maryland

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Sounds awful. I’m glad you’re okay.