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Apr
6th
2021

Happy International Asexuality Day! · 9:48pm Apr 6th, 2021

I discovered/realized/admitted I was asexual this year. I've always been asexual, it's just that now I have a word for it.

Asexuality is a complicated topic, and I'm hardly an expert. But feel to ask any questions you feel like in the comment section. I won't be offended.

And to start you off, here's some questions I've fielded in real life so far (mostly from my family).

  • What is asexuality?

Asexuality is an absence of sexual attraction to other people. There's a spectrum of it. Some people feel sexual attraction only after a close emotion bond (demisexual), or feel it very rarely (grey-asexuals).

  • Do asexual people date/have relationships?

Some do, some don't. Those who don't experience romantic attraction are aromantic.

  • Do asexuals still have a libido/sex drive?

Yes.

  • How did you know?

Someone asked me if I was asexual. And that caused me to reflect. After looking back on all my experiences, I realized that I had never experienced sexual attraction to another person.

I also reflected on this years ago, after watching Bojack Horseman (which features an asexual character). But I didn't really dig as deeply into it as I did this year. More evidence that representation matters.

  • "How do you know if you haven't tried it?"

Have you ever eaten a jagged piece of metal? Have you ever read a book in a language you don't understand? There's a myriad of experiences that I'm sure you've never tried, but are confident you won't enjoy. Same thing.

Comments ( 3 )

Here's to finding the words!

5491740 It's a very freeing feeling!

I was wondering when or if you were gonna make a blog on this.

Turns out there was a good designated time for doing such a thing. :rainbowhuh:

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