Nov
21st
2019
Why the hell is love even a thing? · 4:37am Nov 21st, 2019
Hey guys!
So remember when I told you about my whole crush catastrophe?
Well, we did end up dating, but only for a week then we broke up because things weren't working out.
So long story short, he hates me and he's also depressed.
I've tried talking to him about it, but all he says to me is "You've ruined my life and nothing will fix it"
And I'm afraid his depression is even ruining his work.
I mean, I don't love anymore, but I didn't want to ruin his life either.
If you guys know how I can help him, or even have any ideas please tell me!
~Frosty_Rainbow~
I, I mean. *sigh* Look, I can't help you. I want to, really, I do, Ms Frosty, but I can't. Because love, almost by definition, is one of the most confusing concepts in the world. There's no simple answer, and there's no right path to take. All you can do is listen to your brain, follow your heart and kinda, just, well, wing it, I suppose.
Also, if he's depressed, then he needs to get help. Blaming you for something that isn't really your fault isn't going to improve his situation. In fact, if he refuses to move past it at some point, then it could very well hurt him.
What was the break up like if you don't mind me asking
Frosty, don't let this person pull you into his blaming you for how he feels and his depression. Things didn't work out romantically between the two of you. That isn't your fault. It is also very wrong of him to blame you for his being depressed.
If you feel that you should help him, give him the information to contact a therapist and let him work with them on his feelings and get treatment for his depression.
It's good that you want to help him but remember to make choices about your life based on what you want, not because it's what someone else wants.
I hope that this doesn't sound harsh or mean, but I know from experience that some people will try to manipulate others in this way.
In short, try to help if you can, but stay true to yourself.
Love is a good thing to share with someone that cares about and respects you. When you find it, it gives you hope.
Not a clue. I've never really understood romance or love all that well, so I'm not qualified to offer any sort of advice on the topic. ()^_^
The fact that I promised myself as a kid that I'd never form romantic attachments of any kind factors into it some, too.
As much as I want to answer your titular question, the fact that the guy is blaming you—a person who did absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever—for “ruining his life” just ticks me off to no end.
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Well, he was playing football with his friends, and my friends just dragged me onto the pitch, called him to me and I told him that I was breaking up with him.
He seemed fine, but later that day one of his friends told me that when I left the pitch he started crying.
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Thank you for the advice, I feel a bit better knowing that now.
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You and I both buddy...
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Thanks for caring.
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You're welcome.
Oof. This sounds tough...........
I really wish I could help you, but I'm totally useless when it comes to romance. Mainly because I've almost never met a boy in my life.........heh........not weird at all.............
Sorry that your relationship ending like that. I hope you two can find a way where both of you can live happily.
I'm sorry about that, maybe try to encourage him to find someone else? That there's other fish in the sea? I've never been put in this sort of situation before, so I'm short on ideas
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So, you wanted to break up with him? Why?
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Even though he wrongfully blamed her?
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My ex did the same thing. We have been able to do move on, despite her wrong doing. I wasn't happy with what she did, so I had to push her away. It's not healthy holding grudges, so I afterwards I had to let it go.
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Really? I never thought of it that way.
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Yes I did. I just wanted to have a better discussion on why I did it.