Long Overdue · 9:50pm Oct 15th, 2013
I've been meaning to do this for a good while now, but things came up and life happened, but now that I've been reminded of certain events I think it best to do this now. At first, I considered posting a thread in the twidash group for this, but I feel it would just be re-opening the wound and I'd rather just let this incident fall off the radar, so that everyone can carry on with more important things, but I still think these things need to be said.
First, for the people who are completely ignorant of the situation, I will try and sum it up as best I can.
Some weeks ago Ianpiersonjdavis wrote a story. I won't get into the quality of the story because it is beside the point and has little bearing on anything else. The story basically is about Rainbow Dash's father reminiscing about the day Dash came out about being gay when she was a filly, and is waiting for her (in the present) to bring home her girl/marefriend. There is no hint to who/what this significant other is in anyway. It could have been Granny Smith for all we know. Ianpiersonjdavis then proceeded to put this story in almost every single shipping group that had Rainbow Dash and <insert female pony/griffon/zebra here>, claiming he wanted to "leave it up to the readers to decide who it was." While keeping the conclusion of a story ambiguous to allow for reader interpretation is all fine and good, you can't go around adding your story to groups dedicated to certain pairing when there is zero evidence of the pair in the story. Whether Ian was merely ignorant about doing such a thing, or if he was just shoving his story into every group he could to generate more views will probably remain a mystery to me, mostly due to my own inability to "trust" what people say over the internet.
Suffice to say, I was not happy with how the story was thrown into groups, most notably the twidash group, on the notion of "reader interpretation." As a result I responded to his reasoning thusly:
That's stupid. You might as well as tag it anthro and human because maybe I want her to introduce both a human and an anthro. Oh and could you tag it mature too cause I want them all to fuck her dad.
You also are stupid
What followed was a chain of messages between Ian, Jumpitydude (the twidash group creator), and myself; that you can quite easily see by scrolling down on my user page.
Subsequently following those messages, JD posted a thread in the twidash group asking about the validity of my statements, which was met with a lot of negativity towards him, and the thread was deleted shortly after it was put up.
Which brings us to the present where JD has posted an apology after his first on in the comments on the main page didn't receive "enough attention." Which is what reminded me I needed to do this, but...less invasive.
So now that everyone is up to speed mostly, I can go into the actual reason for this post. I feel I need to apologize to a few people for this entire situation, and in no particular order.
Ianpiersonjdavis even though you have stated that you have blocked me, I would like to apologize for not dealing with you in a more professional manner and for attacking you personally for something you may have not even known was wrong. I could have and should have handled that better, and in the future I will look back on this incident as a lesson of what not to do when dealing with an individual. I had previously said that the world isn't kind and doesn't care about how people feel. While although true, it shouldn't be. People are much to involved with themselves to really care or even acknowledge other people's feelings.
Secondly, I would like to apologize...again, to bats and The_Incredible_Blunderbolt, for having to deal with the aftermath of my self-entitled rant, even after I was told that I should probably just let the whole situation go. I was willing and able to accept whatever JD did to me, whether it be taking away my admin role or outright banning me from the group. I was going to accept whatever he did and had no desire to put bats or Blundy into a position that would force them to "choose sides." However, that didn't seem to happen as JD asked for them specifically in his first thread post that got deleted. Though I don't know what was exchanged through PMs I want to say thank you and I'm sorry for dealing with this a lot better than I did.
Lastly, and certainly not least, I apologize to every member of the twidash group. All of you deserve to not be thrown into the petty affairs of the admins. This group is meant to be a place where people go to to enjoy stories about the best pairing in the fandom, not where you have to be subjected to the things that you have been in the past weeks. You also deserve to have an admin ridicules and mocks you. So, whatever decision is made about my role and status with the group, I promise to be a better admin/contributor/user to all of you.
I had no idea about any of this, as it seems I didn't really pay much attention to events, but since you spent the time typing and posting this it's pretty evident that you have realised your mistakes and are willing to make things better. Although it doesn't really mean much coming from someone who wasn't remotely involved in anything, I forgive you.
~The Professor.
I have unblocked and forgiven you.
At the time I didn't care about the views and didn't realize my actions would have been perceived as such.
Given the nature of your response, at the time I believed that you were attacking me just for the sake of doing so.
I personally believe that this act shows a great deal of maturity and am glad that all three of us have learned from this experience, despite ugly circumstances-and am hopeful that we can all move on.
No apology to me?
Lol, jk. To be honest, It's great to know that you can look at a message and see that there's someone with emotions on the other side of things. I've said this before, but you have done more for the group than I could ever hope to. This also covers my main concern and the main reason for me cutting your status; concern for your ability to respect others. You're a great person, and I'm only upset (at this point) that it took so long for me to see that.
As for that first line of my comment, I actually feel as if you shouldn't apologize to me. It wasn't "white and black," but more of "gray and grey." Neither of us was truly being good or bad. We were just too aggressive in defending our views. We cool now?