Mo Fear Chaile · 4:54pm Mar 5th, 2021
"My male companion." That's how you say "husband" in Irish. I've never been too fond of the word husband due to it's etymology, literally meaning "master" in Old Norse. Least of all calling my husband that, who has been a dear companion to me since and before we wed. "Mo fear chaile" expresses more deeply how I feel about him.
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No, just, no. it means 'house farmer', 'hus'- house, 'band'-farm, it means the man has and earns enough to own his own house and farm independently from anyone.
Um...........Are you being straight here?
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Owning freehold property went along with being the male head of a household, so this is a distinction without a difference.
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The implication being that the woman was part of what the husband owned. That the implication is lacking in the Irish language is what appeals to me.
5468216
About what in particular?
5468264
All this fancy talks.
5468269
No one's called Irish fancy since the fall of Niall's empire. So...thanks I guess?
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Not necessarily. Also, in Norse marriages, men had to pay 1) a bride price to the father to show that he can provide for her and 2) the morning gift, which was to his newly wedded spouse. This true for all Norse men, from a thrall to a jarl, to a king.
Being a husband meant you were a free man with his own house and farm.
That's it.
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Two words, Morning Gift, look it up.
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Do you truly not understand what I mean?
This is hardly a casual or current thing you're saying.
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Well, no, but I do love language and in this case I prefer the Irish term and consider it a better way to describe my relationship.
This may be a bit controversial, but I don't beleive that a word's etymology should have any bearing on the way it is viewed now. There are plenty of words we use in everyday language that are harmless now, but used to have a lot of power behind them to enforce hateful and oppressive ideas. Some would be surprised. Judging a word based on its etymology, which at this point is all but forgotten, let's be real, is almost like saying, "I want these words to be able to hurt people like they used to."
5468804
True, but I think I've had such a bad experience with seeing marriages collapse because they were based off that old hierarchical dynamic that I want something different for my own marriage.
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A marriage can be whatever you make of it. I do hope the two of you are happy as can be.
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Thanks.