How I Overcame My Depression · 2:00pm Apr 29th, 2019
Copy/pasted from Anti-Depression forum so this gets to more people who might benefit.
Note: While I have come a LONG way from my past (wanted to kill myself in 2012 and tried starving myself in 2008), I have still not overcome my depression 100%. Anyone who says they've overcome it 100% is probably bullshitting you. Also, this is what worked for ME. Use what you find useful. If you disagree with 100% of what I say, then feel free to disregard all of it 
This post will probably get me banned haha, but here it goes...
1. I learned to fight
I have always been a big kid (5'10" at age 10), but I was always scared of confrontation. As a result, I was bullied horribly until I learned boxing. Now I no longer fear confrontation. I am no longer scared of being hit in the face (one of the most powerful and freeing feelings ever). No bully wants to pick on someone who could knock them unconscious. You don't have to choose boxing. There is wrestling, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Muay Thai, MMA, etc. Just pick a combat sport that has CONTACT SPARRING (so no children's karate classes).
If you don't want to learn fighting, at least lose weight and build muscle. It'll do wonders for your mood, energy, confidence, and attention from the opposite sex. However, until you overcome the fear of being in a fight you'll never be fully confident.
Also, it's awesome when people in real life make fun of bronies and I tell them that I'm one. They always instantly shut up haha.
2. I found out why I was depressed
Controversial statement, but for ME, depression was the symptom, not the root cause. The root cause of my depression was that I'd failed for years at the stuff I had always wanted to do. From experience, most (not all) depressed people feel that way because of a reason in their life. I know rich people who are depressed because they aren't close to their family. I know poor people who are depressed because they're one bill from bankruptcy. I know fat people who are depressed because they are disgusted at their bodies. I know beautiful girls who are depressed because guys only like them for their body. In all 4 cases these people would be better served attacking the root cause problem with 100% effort.
My depression only started going away when I STOPPED thinking about it and started attacking my life problems (aka the root causes)
*** Only focus on problems that you can CONTROL. If your relative died, there is nothing you can do.
3. I met the girl of my dreams (and this is where I get banned haha) **This one is aimed toward guys since I'm a man
I was horrible with girls growing up. I was so socially awkward and didn't get my first kiss until age 20. Now I love public speaking and am engaged to a girl who is beautiful inside and out. We've been together for 4 years and our love only grows stronger each month. But the best part is knowing that if I lose my limbs in an accident, go bankrupt, or become a literal leper, she'll still be with me. And vice-versa.
To get this relationship, however, I first had to increase my value as a man. This included learning how to fight, losing weight, getting into pharmacy school, learning to write (having an artistic passion), gaining confidence, etc. If I had none of these things, then I wouldn't have joined a fraternity, never would've learned about Tinder from my frat bros, never would've had them help me build one, and never would've matched with my eventual fiancee on it.
Here's the thing: My girl would love me even if I had NONE of these things, but to get her I needed them. The higher your value as a man, the more women you will meet, thus INCREASING your CHANCES (nothing is guaranteed) of eventually meeting your ideal romantic partner. The guy who has 100 girls like him has a better chance of finding his ideal partner over the guy who is liked by 2 girls.
This works with getting friends too. A guy who is kicking ass in life will ATTRACT friends. He won't need to struggle to get them. The best thing I ever did for my social and love life was STOP WORRYING about it. Increase your VALUE as a man and friends and girls will come to you.
A real life example I love is the UFC fighter Khalil Rountree Jr. His dad died when he was young and he ate himself into 300lbs of depression.
He then learned to fight and became a UFC fighter.
It's a tough road for us, but there is a way to the end. Feel free to dislike this, call me names, etc. I just hope this helps someone out there 
This is an amazing story! I wish I had more time to comment, but suffice to say that you sharing this deeply personal (and well written) story will definitely inspire anyone who reads this, regardless of where that person is in their life.
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Thanks! Though I wish I had spent more time on actionable steps in the post (which I may add if I see a demand for it).
Thought I might just stop by and state how well-written and truthful this is. Also, short, simple, and straight to the point, as good advice should be. And just by the way, the third point of advice works for females as well.
Learning the basics of Krav Maga and carrying a pepper spray also helps, especially if you are a bit on the diminutive side. And you didn't hear from me, but suddenly flicking a pair of dissecting scissors from your pocket does wonders to scaring people off.
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I've actually considered writing a part 2 to this, where I talk about the specific actionable steps I took and how I worked around the lack of energy/motivation that is associated with depression. But every time I write it, I just end up deleting it because I don't want anyone to feel "attacked."
Doesn't curse, but will pepper spray you blind and fight you with scissors. I like your style
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I see. Honestly, I don’t think such detailed second part is needed. Not because the actual steps might insult someone, but mostly because people are different and have different approaches. “Lose weight if you don’t want to be overweight,” is enough of a good advice. There are multiple ways of actually tackling the issue, so everyone can find what suits him/her best.
A lady has to know how to protect herself
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You're probably right.
My reasoning was that there's just so much purposely bad information out there. Either by people trying to sell stuff ("Gurus" selling courses/books, people trying to sell overpriced books/courses/"life coaching" in general). Or by people with agendas (Pick Up Artists/Red Pill guys telling men to treat all women like shit is a big one a lot of men are falling into). And it's all targeted toward people who are at their most vulnerable and looking for any way out.
Having gone through literally 100s of places online in my early 20s to find ways to turn my life around, I can confidently say that only a few (very few) had
1. A successful track record (as in they helped many people go from rock bottom to outperforming the average in only a few years)
2. Weren't solely designed to sell a product
My planned second post wasn't going to be anything close to great material like this. I just wanted to help at least one person not fall into the "self-help"/"Guru" rabbit hole that leaves most more bitter than they started.