Help! My Heart is Full of Pony! - On Friendship and Lies · 3:56am Aug 21st, 2018
My wife wrote a brief friendship essay on her Facebook. It’s not horse-related, but it’s some of the best friendship advise I’ve ever read. Since it has been very well received, and actually seems to be opening up people’s eyes, I’m posting it here.
I edited the profanity to fit the PG standards of this blog, and indicated all of the edits with a [bracket], a “...”, or an asterisk*
On Friendship and Lies
“A very human experience is being lied about. It's a thing that happens and can happen as early as grade school. And it can really freak you out.
My first experience being lied about was in junior high school. I came out as queer in junior high school and a girl I had lunch with every single day out of nowhere accused me of ‘coming on to her.’
Why? Because she was a homophobic piece of ****. And any friends I lost over her lies were not worth ****. But I had to grow up to learn that.
A guy I wouldn't [have sex with]* over 30 years ago has been lying about me ever since (yo, the dude has a website about me)...
Why? Who can be sure? But the lies are not coming from a healthy place and you don't have to be super intelligent to know that much. This guy describes himself as a Satanist and claims that he can control demons and the weather and so on and so forth so I'm going to go out on a limb and say maybe he's not the most stable fellow mentally. But his crazy is not my circus and his monkeys are not my monkeys.
And much like I learned in junior high, anybody who doesn't want to be friends with me because of what this guy has to say about me is not worth shit. Having grown up, I now know that and have been blessed to know that sort of thing for quite a long time now.
If you find yourself being lied about and if you find people you thought were your friends believing these lies or total strangers believing these lies remember this:
Anybody who's just going to blindly believe whatever they are told about you without having any possession of the facts? Without even pausing to wonder about the motivation of the person saying bad things about you? Is this a person you really want in your life? Is that the kind of person you want to spend your time on Earth with? Even for a minute? I don't.
I don't want to be friends with those people and I don't want them in my life. Not simply because they believe some stupid nonsense about me. I don't take it that personally. It's that these people lack the judgment and the common sense to think critically and would believe foolish nonsense about anybody simply because they were told to.
Our time on Earth is limited and precious and we don't get any refunds on time that we have wasted.
So if you wake up one day and you find out that some sad loser is out there telling tall tales about you don't catch feelings about it.
Think about what you are worth. Think about what your life and your time is worth. Spend it wisely. Don't waste a minute. And if you have the spoons, you can even be grateful that some idiot has decided to help you filter other idiots out of your life. Consider it time saved. ♥”
-Sprocket
P.S. - I contemplated adding commentary in relation to pony, since that is the focus of this blog after all, but after careful consideration, I've come to the conclusion that this essay speaks best on its own. Friendship lessons are at the core of My Little Pony, and I hope that this, as a friendship lesson, is relevant enough.
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These were unfortunate circumstances for anyone to go through but you're quite correct. It is a very worthwhile and excellent friendship lesson. People who are mean, tell lies about you just to make you feel bad or make themselves look good aren't worth your time and are not your friends.
Thank you for sharing this, Sprocket!
Agreed, the content stands on its own, and suits the sight's theme. Your little edits don't detract from anything though.