So, my mom just pretty much just gave up on me · 3:35pm Jan 12th, 2017
Last night my mom worked and while she worked, I decided to do my chores before she got home to make her happy since the house being clean is a big thing to her and she gets mad if it's not. I did my chores and all, but when I did the counters, one of them was really dirty so I sat for a good 5 - 10 minutes trying to clean it. I guess I didn't do it right since earlier this morning she complained about it not being cleaned and claimed I didn't do it at all.
I told her I did it, I just didn't do it right and that I'm sorry and she's like "Yeah, that's why it's still fucking dirty!" and she scoffed at me.
I told her the effort I put into it and how hard it was to clean it to try and reason with her, then my dad came in saying "Well you don't just stop! You keep going until it's clean. That's half ass-ed."
So they're both pretty much saying I didn't want to do it. I tried to tell my dad how hard it was becoming but he kept cutting me off so I just left the kitchen and sat in the living room while they bickered at about it. So while they continued to complain I cut them off and told them "I tried, but you guys don't need to make it seem like I didn't want to do it. That needs to stop."
I said that needs to stop because they always cut me down on my performance of doing my chores, then my dad starts yelling at me, saying he wants to slap me in the face and that it's stupid I can't just do it right. I told him I said sorry already I didn't do it right and he gave the usual "sorry doesn't cut the cake."
My mom came into the living room and explained to me how to clean the counters when I already knew how. She told me I need to wash the table, move everything from the counters onto the table, wash the counters, move the stuff back then wash the table again. Why wash the table twice? So I asked her why not just wash the table afterwards and she gets upset and starts to throw a fit.
I forget exactly what was said but within what she said she called me an idiot and doubted if I could get anywhere in the real world then basically told me she doesn't want me doing chores anymore because I can't do them right.
Nice way to cut down on my confidence which I'm already fucking lacking...
Sounds like my own family.
4380280 same here also the reason why i have 4 theripists and could have had assault charges pressed if i didn't plead unstable (the only thing that kept me from jail.) in other terms don't be like me get your head out of your but and get working, it helps a lot, also if you have a place to hole up in you may want to keep that place close by, it will come in handy. remember life is like a story it has a exposition riseing action climax falling action and resultion.
4380299 Every story comes to an end
holy shit this sounds like my mom and stepdad
Here is one phrase that will solve all your problems. The next time your mom or both your parents start saying that you can't clean or do something right just look them in the eyes and say Hello Pot my name is Kettle and just turn around and walk away.
4380328 i'm trying that next time!!!!!
I understand your pain, my parents are somewhat similar to it. Well, at least you're being respectful.
My au t does shit like this constantly and im scuicidal cause of it
4380488 i have to wonder how parents think this helps my family knows i lack self confidence my self and yet they still cant get it in thier heads that saying all the things i do to help never happen does not help
4393166 I guess it's because they had lived in a different timeline from us. Things have changed, after all.
this is a blunt example of parents only seeing whats NOT done, and not what is... sad realy. i know how it is... i lived under a foster parent for 10 years and the house could be so dirty, than the ceiling is brown from it. when cleaned up, she would look for one grain of dirt in the entire house and if she finds one, she says nothing was cleaned, even if the walls are shining like some Disney cartoon.
for being 'mature' adults, parents need to grow up.
as a 30 yo single,i understand,from the time i could talk,to the time i left my parents home,i and my sibling were told we would never be able to get anywhere in life,nothing we did was ever done well enough,and we were told that we never did anything up to par with normal stupidity,that we were horrible communicators and that "you have way to much confidence in your fifteen years of experience, i am 60 years old, i have four times the life experience you do,but you stubbornly resist instruction....i am honestly scared for how you will do when you move out"
needless to say i had little problem,no i didn't suddenly change,that much he got right,but here i am after ten years,doing just fine,steady job,spare cash,no debt,and worrying about my youngest sibling who is now half my age,and treated exactly like the rest of us were,except he doesn't have us there to support him...
but all that to say,i know what it's like having parents who treat you like shit,you just have to hang on,and hope you can get out as soon as possible