Angulimala · 4:24pm Nov 13th, 2014
If I had to list one quality about myself that I find a bit disheartening, it would be the fact that, although I have only a few triggers that can make me angry, if you happen to pull said trigger, the resulting gunfire gives the effect of an atom bomb. The bullets which leave the barrel of my mouth are varied, ranging from pseudo-spiritually-laced invectives to logical fallacies so numerous that I could fill the state of Nebraska with the straw men that I create. It is not something that I am proud of, obviously, but it is something that happens, especially if I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio or Merlot that evening.
In case you haven't noticed, I have lately been fascinated with the concepts of forgiveness: what it means, how it is given, how it is obtained, and, most importantly, who deserves it. It is the last concept that I wish to delve into at present. My current story, "Bluebelle of the Ball: The Musical" has been dealing with forgiveness, especially in the last act. The idea that anyone can be forgiven under the proper circumstances and that all have an inherent goodness to them (i.e., universalism, Divine Spark, Buddha Nature, fitra, etc.) is something in which I strive to believe. I want to think that all beings actually do seek only happiness and honestly do not have nefarious goals in mind when they speak to me. For me, the idea of giving unto others is what makes me happy is so inherent that sometimes it becomes difficult for me to understand why others cling to a philosophy of "me first" or "winning at all costs", or why the idea of competition is so alluring. This concept, so utterly alien to me, makes it difficult for me to empathize with someone who espouses said worldview. This inability, while knowing its perversity, is something that I have yet to be able to shake off in its entirety, making it seem as though I am inflexible when it comes to holding others up to certain standards. In a way, clinging to one's own philosophy so tightly can lead one to experience the lack of empathy for others, which, in my own philosophy, leads to hypocrisy. This fault reminds me of the story of Angulimala.
Why does it become to easy to look down smugly on those whose philosophy I feel is lacking? In foresight and hindsight, discussing such issues objectively is easy. It is when I am in the heat of the moment that controlling myself becomes difficult. It becomes easy to assign preconceived notions of who or what a person is simply by learning of what philosophy they follow or how they look or sound or to point out what I feel are the flaws in said philosophy. Beyond this, we learn that people make assumptions based on these little seeds of what we believe a person to be. It is a simplification process in our minds so that we can instead focus on other things instead of on who this person is that we see, as an individual and a being. We want to put people in these little boxes so that we can go on with our lives with as little resistance as possible. These assumptions become a form of violence against each other; they become an act of preemptive defense that allows us to judge those we do not even know. Those seeds of preconceived notions which I have been planted in the garden of my heart bloom. But are they the flowers that I want to look at every day?
As I said, I have always liked the story of Angulimala. If a man who once murdered 999 people and strung their fingers around his neck like a mala can learn to control his actions and attain Enlightenment, then maybe I can at least learn to stop projecting onto people nefarious deeds of which I have no evidence. Maybe I can, one day, finally accept the difficulty of doing so, even if that means having to slow down my own life and my own mind so that I can focus on each person as a person. Maybe I can learn not to be smug and self-righteous. Maybe it is possible to retoil this garden and to simply start once more to plant the proper seeds. Maybe it is possible to find the safety on the gun of my mouth.
(We see here in this picture Buddha basically telling Angulimala "Just calm the hell down, why don't you?"