Something annoying just happened · 12:46pm Jul 5th, 2020
I don't usually do blogs like this, but I just need to get this out of my system before I break something.
So around yesterday, a friend of mine got into an 'argument' with a user called Artist, yep. Artist.
The reason the were arguing is because my friend just wanted to give Artist some help because she was saying that people are sometimes rude to her because of her CP. But guys, come on, we all know that's not true. So a few minutes later, my friend comes and asks me about her and explains the situation. So I tell her that Artist has a reputation for lying and that this isn't true.
So she tells me to go to her page and look at the comments. You can check it out for yourselves, but right now let me explain what was happening. Basically Artist was saying that she didn't need her help in a very rude way.
Here are some of the responses I've gathered:
(the red is what Artist was saying)
Exactly! But you have to think of what you say first. Like, "does it hit close to home?" "Maybe that could've been insulting in some way" "I probably shouldn't be so blunt, instead, subtle" ya know?
I know, I have trouble with that
So do I, but sometimes you have to think about how the other person feels. Maybe ask them why they think that you're rude. If they tell you and it's a valid, legitimate answer, then fix it!
Thanks, but no thanks
Who responds like that!? She was just trying to help.
Anyway, here's what my friend responded with:
Well hell, I tried to help! Looks like I can't be friendly nor helpful at all.....oh well, "I tried so hard and got so far, but in the end it doesn't even matter! " - Linkin Park. At least I tried
So after that, I just jumped in and said this:
Listen, she's just trying to help so if you don't need her help, than that's your problem no need to be rude about it. I thought you were working on being a better person, so far....you're failing
I guess that sounded a little rude, but I'm sick of her treating people like that. We're only trying to help her.
Then, after I said that, I think she got the wrong idea and thought I was standing up for her and not my friend.
Hey thanks for standing up for me
I dunno know if she got confused after that, but when I made it clear I wasn't defending her, she then went and said that she was trying to give advice to my friend and she was the one being rude. Such lies. Then she went further and said that she didn't want to get banned so she was gonna leave it be.
You can check the conversation out for yourself, here's the link>>https://www.fimfiction.net/user/302115/Artist#page/3
But after that, today, I found out she blocked me when I tried to comment, but it said error. Who does that!? I heard she also blocked a friend of mine too because of the same reason.
But seriously, I'm so sick of people like this.
Anyway, hope you're all having a wondertastic day and stay safe my friends!
Oof, that's crazy. I know what it feels like with getting blocked by an ignorant person over weak and dumb reasons.
She was temporarily banned by the way
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Really? How? An I'm guessing it's because of this.
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Nope. It’s this.
I think.
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Have a hug *hugggggs*
so sorry you two had to go through that. It really stinks. I think leaving the user alone is good idea. And good on both of you for trying to help - that was very kind. I hope your day wasn’t ruined because of that
Okay, look, in my eyes, your actions are uncalled for. You are still being unnecessarily rude to her, even if she deserves it. (Which she really doesn't)
Firstly, it's a bad idea to put other users names into negative blog posts about them. That's the match that starts flame wars. Finding a substitute name, such as 'User A' would be a much better solution.
Nobody has to accept help. She declined the request in a respectful way. You can't just force your views on another person, that's not gonna make them change.
And I did personally take a look at her page, you and the other person were being EXTREMELY rude to her. You weren't very nice to her when you talked to her in one of my posts from over a month ago either.
She is mentally and physically disabled. It would help you in the long run to learn how to be more patient with people like her. Same with Sunny. She was trying to be nice and the two of you started coming after her.
Btw, you didn't show the part of the conversation where artist said she wanted to be friends with Sunny.
You are literally inviting people to go hate on her because she was having a hard time communicating because of something she can't control. Doesn't that seem a little fucked up to you?
My advice to you is to read up on Cerebral palsy and to not negativity reference users anywhere unless you are personally and privately reporting them to the admins.
I don't think anybody here is a bad person, I believe that unwise decisions were made by all parties involved. You don't have to agree with my point of view, but I would like you to think about some of the things I'm saying. It's up to you.
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And I think the best solution would be to just leave her alone.
Thank you
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I guess I was being rude to her. I'll go apologize, wait..I can't she blocked me. But anyways, I see your point on this and I'll just try to be kinder to her in future conversations. I do understand that she has cerebral palsy, and I should understand that she may have a hard time with understanding some things. But I really wish she would at least try not to be rude to people when it's unnecessary.
I'll try and talk to Sunny about it as well.
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Holy moly, what the hell happened there?
.....yikes.....
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Wow, I guess you're right. I think that she still needs to work on her behavior a lot.
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I also see your point, I made a blog post about a similar topic recently. Like I said, all parties involved made mistakes. I don't think Artist is a horrible person. I believe that pretty much everybody is some shade of moral grayness. Some are lighter, some are darker. But it's extremely hard to find someone that is purely white or purely black.
I don't disagree that Artist could be a lot nicer, but she's definitely not the rudest person on the site in my eyes. I don't pay too much attention to her, and I probably haven't seen everything you've seen.
You aren't a hater, I too, have a younger brother with developmental issues. He told me other people think it's cute when he throws a tantrum over a water guns when he's eight years old. He's also threatened to set houses on fire several times. He is still a child with the potential to change, and while I do still love him, he is one of the worst people I've ever met. And my parents like to use his ADHD as an excuse for that, while I, a person who also has ADHD, am capable of social interactions and functioning as a person of my age should be.
My view is, be patient, not tolerant.
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That's understandable
5302018
It's fine, it's fine.
As long as we just forget about it and move on, it'll be a thing of the past.
hopefully
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I think she was talking about me..?
5302018
I think that the way you behaved towards her wasn't necessarily right, you did get very hostile without much reasoning. However, like I said, I don't think anyone involved is a bad person. Just something you live and learn from, you know?
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I'll offer some advice. Steer clear of her. Don't try to help her, don't try to 'crusade' against her, but also at the same time don't allow her to step over others and abuse their kindness/trust/good faith, and call her out when you see her actually doing something like this; don't just go try and hunt her down for innocent comments when it's not needed. Be rightful, not vengeful.
A bit of history; I first met this gal about 2-3 years ago. I read one of her stories, and I left a comment pointing out the plot-holes, the weaknesses of the main chars, and the absence of conflict or proper resolution as well as overuse of cheap pity tactics in her writing that could be time better used to reinforce her MC in ways that I offered. Her response was to comment on my userpage with: "I hate you for what you've done to me."
She doesn't want your opinions. She wants your praises. Lesson one.
I read more of her stories, saw how horribly she presented autism and CP, in such ways in fact that a friend of mine in this site who actually suffers from it is raging whenever she's mentioned. It's representations like this that make people treat him as if he's a retard (his words) just because he has some trouble with movement. Later on, I even doubted if she was actually disabled herself. I mean, she wouldn't be the first, and how could a person who did have these disabilities use them like pity tools in such ease?
I changed my mind later on, but maybe I shouldn't.
I later did some looking around. She has been banned from Fimfiction's discord server. You won't be able to see her responses as they have been deleted because of her ban, but if you look for "artistfire" as she used to be known you will find responses of others to her. She basically treated every conversation as directed to her and announced/spammed her comes and leaves in every channel, which was the main reason she was banned. But you will also see an abundance of people sick of her because they tried to help her 'understand' how to be better in writing and as a person and she refused to do anything they asked but kept asking them to do the work for herself instead. Heck, there was one guy complaining about how he basically wrote a fic all by himself that they were supposed to co-author and she still posted it as hers. Not to mention how many people she duped in Discord and in her blogs to write for her.
I also did some look around in other places. I found her in other sites. One thing I remember seeing was duping people into thinking she's an artist, getting them to do an art swap, and when her time to reciprocate came she responded "I don't draw." There's a reason she has a shitload of art of her OC but none drawn by her. She also mentioned how she's not really disabled, or at least she herself isn't as disabled as she claims but that's her OC.
Of course, all these are now deleted. She deletes everything. She has deleted more stories that are now alive on her account. More blogs than she has. More comments and threads that you can imagine.
Still, the mind wonders what the fuck is her issue. Well, she recently posted her deviantart account on one of her blogs. https://www.deviantart.com/uhh1234we Dear god, so much made sense now. Look at her favorites. Look at shit she has written. Read this thing she has written, and tell me it doesn't read like erotica.
All you have to do is look around in her favorites, and it's photoshops of healthy people recast as spastics (actual titles of many of these "art") and disabled in wheelchairs, with many comments by the 'community' about how they'd like to sex them up or use them or how they are 'beauties'.
Do you know why she keeps writing about disabilities? Why every character of hers is unable to move or dress themselves and can barely do more than moan? Because it's her fetish. Not do anything, be served at all times, and be given praises for nothing more than breathing? It's her heaven. Hell, look at this.
https://www.deviantart.com/uhh1234we/journal/I-want-to-become-more-disabled-than-i-already-am-841617070
Also, the reason I should have never changed my mind on the opinion that she's either not disabled or overplays it?
https://www.deviantart.com/uhh1234we/status-update/20931314
https://www.deviantart.com/uhh1234we/status-update/20894507
"What is your favorite part about pretending." Jesus Christ.
Now, her habit of suddenly writing much more child-like and in more 'simple' language when she's accused of something or people criticize her or basically say things she doesn't like, makes so much sense. Not to mention how she suddenly decided she has echolalia only a few weeks ago after years of not.
I mean, she IS guilty of being an idiot. Echolalia is not repeated in text, and of course she only does it when she remembers it. But still. I guess it makes sense in some way. After all, she is roleplaying her power fantasy.
Jesus Christ, stay away from this mess.
Oh, as to why she was banned. She had been making blogs about being bullied (which means people weren't praising her), and at the same time decided it was a good time to push another dude she didn't know and who was teetering about staying on the site to leave and generally be a bully to him for shits and giggles. The guy pushed back, he didn't want to back off, she didn't want to back off, the site admins banned them both for a day.
Fun fact about her bullying blogs. She made a blog about how she was being bullied a month or two ago. When people asked her who it was, she said me. They asked how. She pointed at one comment of mine about not believing her being disabled from 2018. 2018! Pointing at me as her bully and all that. Then a gal said she'd give me a piece of her mind. Artist said she wanted to know all the details. Because, why not? This was what she was working towards.
Another fun fact: Truth is better than lies. The gal was a splendid chap, and after a single explanation it all died down. But Jesus, what a hypocritical creature.
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Jesus Christ, I thought she was bad,but not this bad.
Who writes stuff like that?!
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Yeah, and apparently, she also got another user banned, called 'Lilly Blushing' they got into a fight and they both got temporarily banned.
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Listen, just never look into the profiles of people who comment at her in deviantart or those whose pics she favorited. Just... don't. It's a rabbit hole that leads to trauma. It's so close to rape fandom that it's not even funny.
Lillie was the one that Artist decided to bully while whining about being 'bullied' herself, so yeah.
Fun fact. If you ever see Artist complaining about a user who's 'bullying' her or mention a 'guy with luna as his profile', that's your homie right here. She absolutely hates me, and has tried to point people at my direction multiple times, because I call out her shit. Like the time she started saying in a thread how people who write stories of sex with ponies should be banned by the site administrators. She didn't take well to me pointing out how she wrote stories with ponies being tortured with wrist-watch devices in order to be raped and such, so that was hypocritical.
Of course she followed that with making a thread elsewhere trying to convince people how she was being 'bullied' because she wrote such a story because she saw a rape video on youtube (what the fuck, huh?) and wrote it because it affected her so.
Bottom point, never fall for her shit.