Mar
18th
2020
I need some advice! · 4:51pm Mar 18th, 2020
I have epilepsy and I recently had a seizure and now my fiance is having a hard time understanding epilepsy and when I try to talk to her about it she doesn't want to listen. I have tried to reason with her by saying that talking about it would benefit both of us in this relationship but she doesn't want to hear it. I don't know what to do or what to say. When I took the ring I made her promise to look after me but she is doing the exact opposite. I feel like when I am weak and need a shoulder to cry on she isn't there for me. I have been there for her but what about me? I thought that both partners have to be there for each other? I don't know what to do because I love her but I don't know what to do anymore.
You want the hard truth?
If she's unwilling to support you when you need it, she may not be the one for you, I am really sorry to say. However, as you said, partners should be there for each other through good times and bad
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I don't want to be a downer, because things can change. But my fiance walked away after my Aspergers was diagnosed. It was a slow decent, "here is the ring back, lets take it slow," until it no longer existed. She also had her own anxiety problems though. We went from planning a wedding to now I'm looking at a ring and a few pictures. She broke off all contact. Unfortunately, you can't control your partner, at least not while being a good partner.
Armed with my experience, don't stop fighting for her. Because you made a promise, and it is your word and more on the line. I fought, and I don't regret it. It was worth the pain. I am not sure it would have been less painful if I didn't fight, but I recommend being calm, understanding, and fighting for the relationship.
Sometimes people need a little more time to understand how the changes will effect their life. She had a view, a vision and dream for what being with you meant. That just radically changed. It can take a little bit to reshape those dreams, and that is fair. Girls rely on those dreams, but it is a good thing.
I sadly feel the same as the two below me