The one thing that I thought was impossible became possible · 9:52pm Jan 20th, 2020
I don't want to go into details or say too much because I don't want to get angry or sad right now but I just found out the most overwhelming thing in my life. Not many of you know this but I was adopted at 6. Which would have led me to a family that should have help me but instead had, as many of you guys can guess, not so well. If I could describe my childhood in three words it would be pain, abuse, and stress. And I could never talk about my foster parents. My dad slapped me once so hard in the face when I did and told me to never speak about them ever again. So I never did and in some cases I decided to forget about them because I was never allowed to talk about them.
After my adoption, I never saw my foster parents again. Never heard from them, never spoke to them, nothing. I honestly thought that they had forgotten about us.
Then a few days ago, my sister found them after about 16 years on Facebook. She's been talking to my foster mom and my foster mom's daughter for a few days now. And it turns out my mom purposely kept our foster parents out of our Lives. She cut all contact from them and make sure she never knew where we were. It broke my foster Mom's heart. She loved us and apparently wanted to know how we were doing cuz she had a bad feeling about my mom. According to her daughter, she would cry about us for years and she thought she made a mistake letting us go and was afraid we would doubt that she cared about us. The whole time that I thought they forgot about us, she missed us. I want to see her cause I missed her.
I don't know how to feel right now. I mean I love my mom and I hate that she's gone but I can't help but be angry. Is it wrong to be mad at someone who is dead? I feel like my life could've been easier or better if something different happened. All I know is that my foster mom wants to see us and been wanting to see us for a long time but my adopted mom did everything in her power to make sure that never happened.
How would you feel about that?
I think this is very sad, and you should maybe spend some time with your foster mom.
I won't say I know how to deal with this but I think giving it a try is key.
At least you'll know which is sometimes all you need to feel a little more secure with how your life goes.
Not knowing is the worst part.
Approach slowly and steadily and brace yourself for shocks if they may come but if you brave it all, you might get something better than you ever imagined.
I had never gone through that, so I don't know, but I hope things get better for you soon
I can't say i can truly understand this situation, but if someone wronged you, even if they are dead, they are fair game for being upset at