Car Rides w/ Dad in a Nutshell: · 6:07pm May 21st, 2019
Insulting my intelligence? Check.
Insulting my faith? Check.
Insulting me as a person? Check.
Using the fact that I need to see a therapist in an insulting way? Check.
Talking and shouting for hours and never saying anything of value? Double check.
Never making worthwhile contributions to any conversation and talking just to hear his own voice? Triple check.
Refusing to believe that his constant inconsiderate and downright disrespectful behavior has a negative impact on my mental health? Check.
Do I have it bad? In the big picture, no. Not really. I give back as much shit as he gives me.
Am I just being a dumbass teenager? Highly likely, I'm not exactly the most intelligent personality.
A LOT of people have it leagues worse, so my complaining is probably really insulting towards those who deal with truly vile parents. I won't even pretend that I have it that bad. But I'll be damned if my dad isn't infuriating to deal with towards everyone who's unfortunate enough to share a roof with him.
Just needed to vent... to a bunch of people online...
.... oh my gosh, I'm one of those people.
I hope things can get better
Congrats, you have all the necessary aspects of life needed to become a YouTuber.
Other than insulting your faith, this is the worst. If he doesn't even recognize - even refuses to recognize - that his behavior is hurting you...
If you'll forgive me, I hope you can find independence soon; not the kind you rush into without a plan or backup, but one that lets you live apart from this... not abuse, but bad behavior, I guess. It's an outrage that your dad refuses to even consider the impact of his behavior on you. That said, I hope you still love him even through this.
I've done that before. It really stinks that you have to go through this, and that he's not listening.
I don't know about you, but I certainly used to be.
If people get triggered just because you're venting about a dad who's being less toxic than theirs, then that's their problem, not yours.
Honestly, I didn't have a toxic dad, but I did have one who favored my littler brother over me (largely because my little bro didn't challenge or stand up to him, whereas I was willing to object to something I thought was unfair). He could lose his temper sometimes; once, when I did something wrong (at school, I think I kicked another kid), he made me kneel in the corner... on rice. If I remember right, I got out of the punishment early because my mom decided it was too much. Furthermore, being a a brat in church (as in, disrespectful, bored, and antsy) meant that many a Sunday I had to remain in my room for some time, staring out the window from my bed. My mom tells me it was more over my dad's embarrassment than over what I did, though to a certain extent I can agree with being punished over misbehavior in church. At one point he punched me in the head (I forget over what, I think I was disrespectful) and another he broke off the head of one of my Harry Potter dolls (I had gotten into the series with my mom, bonded with her over it, and became a full fledged fan for years on end), though mom made him take me to the store to buy a replacement.
He did get some anger management and (meaning no disrespect for you and your suffering) we did manage to (more or less) straighten out our personal relationship. I still have these memories, though. You're not alone.
Don't worry, my mother's father make us all feel the same way and my father's family is better to be avoided in general, I know how you feel.
You have all the rights to bent. Best wishes.
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Okay, that got a chuckle.
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Thank you, I greatly appreciate this comment.
Well, I can confirm that I don't hate him. But I don't love him either. The only emotion I feel towards him regularly is disdain.
Boy you have no idea how much I relate to this. My dad is similar to your’s but thankfully compared to your dad he is a bit more tamed. He only really insults and hurts people emotionally when he’s angry and by angry I mean really angry. Thankfully when he’s calm he’s really pleasant to be around and talk with.
I can see how it sucks to have a dad like that Dawn. You have my sympathies.
Sympathy, dear brother. It sounds rougher than a primary school maths teacher's sense of humour. That actually sounds similar to my dad at times, so, believe me, I understand how upsetting it can be.
Sending love from this glorious little patch of rainy hell known as England. 💛