I'm coming out... again? · 3:59pm Oct 21st, 2022
Over the past couple months, I've been writing a story that is a self-insert, but the story-me is a woman. And once I started writing that, slowly but surely, I recognized that... it'd actually not be bad if I were a woman. Like, if I could change between sexes at will, I suppose. So, I thought about it for some time now, and I believe I am non-binary. I can't really present myself as feminine because of my looks - no amount of makeup can change the fact that I am bald, unfortunately - but, if I could appear feminine, I would do that. I wouldn't mind it at all. Though, I don't yet know if I want to be referred to as she/her because, well, I just don't look the part at all, and it would be kinda weird? But fact is, when I could grow out hair, I did so, and I wanted to present kinda like a femboy but was too afraid because, well, Russia's extremely bigoted, and it's just not safe to be gender non-conforming or appearing anyone other than straight.
One way or another, my gender identity is a bit of a mess, I suppose. But I think I am non-binary, and I am fine with he/him and they/them. Can't say if I have a preference, but I lean a bit towards they/them. Not sure yet. I guess I will know in the future.
I think it's kinda funny how when I started writing a bisexual character I recognized that I am bisexual/pansexual (I am fine with either label being applied to me) myself and, now that I write myself as a woman, I recognize that I'd be fine that way too. Though, I am fairly sure that I am not trans. I don't think I experience any gender dysphoria - aside from lamenting my lack of hair because I can't grow it out long and present myself as more feminine - and, generally speaking, I don't have any problem with presenting myself as masculine, although my desirable body is one that is lean and isn't overly muscular, so I guess somewhat on the feminine side?
So, there's that. I am non-binary, aromantic, and pansexual. And there I was before, believing myself to be straight and a man. How things change when I learned more and thought about it, huh.
I'll see you all later.
EDIT: some time later, I realized that I'm not non-binary but agender. I am just Elu, and I don't need a gender, so yeah.
Congrats on your self discovery, I hope that knowing this about yourself has made you more confident as a person.
Congratulations on making a discovery about youself i hope things only get better from now on
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Thank you!
EDIT: To the downvoters, y'all can go fuck yourselves. Grow up and learn that there are people outside of your perceived "normal" gender identities.
I too want to make a Coming Out!
From now on my gender is Marble!
About Russia being bigoted I can't agree with you. I lived there a few years, I have friends there and what I can say from what I saw is that people in general there are just much more traditional unlike in USA to say, where a more traditional people are minority nowadays.
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I literally live in Russia, I've lived there for twenty-three years and counting. I can say with absolute certainty that Russia is bigoted. There is widespread homophobia, transphobia, racism, sexism, nationalism, and a bunch of other dumb crap.
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Wow, marble! That's so cool, did your mom come up with that one for you? I'd also like to note that in most cases people who're 'traditional' tend to be bigots.
More importantly; congrats on the self-discovery, Elu! 🧡
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Thank you, sister!
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You're completely detached from reality. Everything you've said is utterly false. So, please do kindly fuck off. If you actually wanted to know why LGBT+ people come out, you'd learn that LGBT+ people have been mercilessly persecuted for centuries to this day, and in many places it is fucking unsafe to reveal yourself as LGBT+, including in Russia.
But if you were actually interested in learning, you wouldn't go on an idiotic rant that also accuses me of falling for anti-Russian propaganda when I literally fucking live in Russia and know first-hand how it is here.
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Just to be clear: I'm NOT against you or non-traditional people. The deleted messege was NOT ABOUT this. It was about double standarts and, even more important, about how fiercely people are shouting about their things so that the whole world can hear them, even those who are not interested in it at all and do not want to know about it.
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Stop being an idiot. If you want to actually learn, look shit up. Otherwise, leave.
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I know about this stuff. I traveled around the world, talked with different people. I have gays among friends, one even is non-binary, who says how ashamed they feel whenever there's a news of scandals around things like parades or Pride Month.
I once asked them how they gonna celebrate Pride Month and my friend said something like "We have a different orientation, but we are not shouting about this to the world. It's our privat buisness. We are not "celebrating" this as if its some kind of celebration. There's nothing to celebrate". Thats what he said. And we are good friends.
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You'd know why Pride Month exist if you bothered to look it up. We are proud of who we are because we are often denied the opportunity to be ourselves. Most countries in the world offer no protection to LGBT+ against discrimination. Most countries do not recognize transgender people and don't allow them to transition or even easily change their legal name.
That and more you could learn by yourself if you bothered to.
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Dude, I just said I have friends who are in those things constantly, I Know these people, we talk to each other sometimes about this stuff. Read again what I wrote more closely.
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You know what? Don't read it again. I see you just full of hate and want to hate everyone exept for those few chosen ones who are like you, and the rest is your sworn enemies.
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Your friends aren't the only LGBT+ people around. And there's no hate. I don't hate anyone who doesn't want to cause me trouble because of who I am. You came here and immediately made fun of me with your "my gender is marble" crap, what other reception did you expect?
Don't be an asshole and I won't be an asshole to you.