A Opinion Piece: Hugboxes · 3:20pm Oct 27th, 2017
Okay, so I was recently reading this oh-so fascinating article off the Foal Free Press. Hugboxes. This kind of stuff I've actually grown to loathe, mainly because of the kind of attention whores it attracts. Now I'm sorry if I get a bit nasty, and I'm well aware I may lose a few followers because of this, but I do want to state my opinion on this. (And yes, I realize I'm taking more than a few cues from the article, but it makes a Hell of a lot of sense to me the more I thought about it.)
These are the closed circles... Circlejerking might be putting it another way. Hand-holding, coddling, so called-positive reinforcement. Now, that's all well and good, make no mistake as there are some people who need a pick-me up now and then.
But then there are the attention whores. You know the ones. The people who regularly claim to be unstable, posting in certain groups whining and complaining on and on about their lives and expecting others to tell them everything will be alright. Now what really grates my nerves are the people who actually need positive reinforcement, and these guys don't. I'm not going to name names, but the ones that don't need these groups are the kind who will find something new to bitch about in a month or so's time and expect more hugs and kisses and then the cycle repeats ad nausem.
Let me make things clear, I hold no disdain for people actually expressing positive words and telling people everything's going to be alright and things will get better, God knows I've had to do that a few times. But the people who lash out and call BS at anyone who says the attention-whore is faking (Their little band of yes-men or women) when anyone with a brain can tell they obviously are, those are the kind who really piss me off. I know BS when I see it, such as when people ask for money over and over for their paypal account on here when they can't pay the bills. If you can't pay the bills and are asking people for money, get a job for crying out loud! Now back to the hugboxes, it rather quickly becomes a circle of emotional support and praise to said person, no matter how much of a dick/jerk/insert word of your choice here.
Shutting yourself away from all these things that are bothering you in life, is... Let's be honest, a temporary reprieve. These kind of pep talks, not the answer in the long run. If you want to actually change your life around... GO OUT AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! There are loads of actually licensed therapists out there, go to one of them.
You know, perhaps what saddens me the most, these people never actually learn from this. And how can they? Their little hugbox has been safely engraved in their mind as their safe spot, the place to go when times get tough. You see where I'm going? They become reliant on these things when they should be facing their troubles head on, and like I said before, seeing an licensed therapist about their issues. Becoming so reliant on human attention? If you're asking me, it's fairly unhealthy.
Let me quote a letter from Princess Celestia from Fluttershy o her experience with the Breezies.
"My experiences with the Breezies have helped me to see that kindness can take many forms. And sometimes, being too kind can actually keep a friend from doing what they need to do. Pushing them away may seem cruel, but it's sometimes the kindest thing you can do."
See what I mean? Bottom line, this lunacy has got to stop. Think about what you're doing people, if you're feeding these people more and more, coddling them, you're only making them more reliant on this sort of thing when as I keep saying, there's an actual, healthier way for these people to solve their problems. They brought this on themselves, let them clean up their own mess.
Bravo man bravo! Totally agree with your statement here.
Now I am very tired at the time of reading and writing, however, if I am reading this right I can't completely agree with you. Most people require help every now and then, the coddling and giving them nice words doesn't help in the long run and should be avoided but you should always help someone out with firm words which boost self-confidence even if only a little to help them deal with a problem head-on even someone who craves attention will benefit from that sort of strategy.
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I'd say you understood the point I was trying to make perfectly.
4709317
Alright good because I haven't slept in awhile and I need it but I can't yet
If I want to do something with my life, then I gotta do it myself, right?
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Pretty much, yes. Face up to your own problems.