Aug
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2015
Friend issues. · 6:06am Aug 20th, 2015
Now, this must be pretty damn mundane compared to some people's problems, but I need some goddamn advice. I have two best friends, and they both cause frequent problems for each other, giving ME problems in turn, and I'm damn sick of it! 
The reason this is as much of a problem as it is is because one of my friends is controlling and loves to trigger people, and the other is unstable and explosive. It's hard to choose between the two because they're both awesome people in their own ways, as unbearable as I just made them out to be. 
And as I said, this is mundane as shit, and I'm ashamed I have to ask my Fimfiction friends this when most of them are going through so much more. 
So, I ask anypony willing to answer, how do I deal with this?
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DeiligKjott · 83 views
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Don't be ashamed to asked, man. A lot of people are willing to help. I'm definitely one of them.
Okay, I've dealt with these kind of people before. He needs to be put in his place (With as little of conflict as possible) and need to ease it down a bit. You say he likes to trigger people, but it sounds like he needs to learn how to back the fuck off before he gets his own.
Try to approach them in a calm manner and don't trigger them. Try to talk to each of them individually in private, but not confront each other until you get one of them, or both of them to get to a compromise.
I don't know if this will help, but I'm doing my best here when I had three hours of sleep.
3333536 Thanks, man. I'll handle it as best I can. I'm going to start school with the two soon, so that should make it easier to deal with. Rest well.
3333541 Just make sure you don't favor one over the other and you should be fine.
3333545 That's been a bit of a problem, but not really. I'll ensure that it won't happen again, as best I can.
Okay I have no experience but the best advice I have to offer is talk to them separately, let them know that you're sick and tired of it and if the are true friends they'll take in your opinion and try
3336670 Thank you. They got into another fight last night. A big part of the problem is that I've never met the triggering one in person. Funnily enough, I met him through the one he's constantly triggering.
Talk to them and make sure you are patient. Don't expect them to immediately change. Don't worry, if they are good friends then it will all work out.
3336678 No probs, hope everything is alright
3336757 It is now!
I think.
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I believe you