Need some advice · 1:49pm Sep 4th, 2019
So... it’s been awhile. I’d want to write more, but been dealing with issues and depression. Mainly those tied around my dad and needing to find a new job.
Long story short; lost my job. Mainly it was due to layoffs, although I can’t pretend it wasn’t my own fault for making a few avoidable mistakes. I’d like to believe I’ve grown up, learned from and won’t make those mistakes again, but my dad dosnt think so. He wants me to ‘change my lifestyle’ and ‘fix’ the ‘problems’ that got me fired from my last job.
Sounds good on paper, right? Well here’s the reality;
For our four months I’ve been ducking doing what he says, have changed all that shit, am more than ready to get a new job, but he’s still insistent I’m not. Maybe he’s not wrong, but the reality is we’re both struggling finically, and along with his anti-brony views, he’s being a hypocrite on me having to get the stress out of my life...
So why not just cut ties with him and get a job? One half is because he’s still my dad. The other is, he has his name in my house when he helped me by it (not a day goes by where I don’t regret not getting an apartment instead), and has said if I tried anything without his approval he’ll take his name out of it.
Anyways, what do I need help with/why am I writing this? I guess mainly I’m looking for advice/tips on living on your own, truly. If anyone knows how to deal with paperwork, taxes, getting your parents name out of your house, ect.
And maybe just some words of encouragement...
It’s a shitty excuse, but I’m giving him another week or two to grown up and treat me like an adult, or else I’ll just have to take my chances with the consequences, since the consequences of waiting for his help will greatly outweigh the penalties of doing nothing.
Any bit of advice/comfort helps. Thank you.
Perhaps do a bit of saving?
Get a mid level nest egg going, then move out to an apartment.
Look around the apartment scene, some go by income.
I have my own tiny two roomer.
I have a simple low paying job, my rent isn't too bad monthly.
All I usually need to keep up with is water and electric.
If you can find an apartment complex like that, then you could move out.
Not glamorous at all.
But it's mine.
I know it can be hard to stand on your own.
But when you do, it's a lovely feeling.
Stay strong and optimistic.
Hard work always pays off.
I can also relate to the dad issues.
I'm never doing anything right.
Or I'm not following career paths or life choices, a woman like myself should be searching for.
I swear my father might be bi-polar.
That and lost in the old ways.
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Thanks ^^’
Here I thought I was alone