You're doing it wrong

As a parent, it is your duty to know your child and help them.

If they your child is taking long showers, sleeping a lot, always seeking entertainment, sluggish, and your response is calling them lazy, then you're doing it wrong.

There is always more than what it seems.

Ask yourself and think back, what could've caused your child this way.

If you're blaming a material like video games or blaming the child's friends, then you're doing it wrong. A child's behavior growing up always reflects the kind of household they live in.

You should be helping your child, walking them through their problems, not physically punishing them or yelling at them. All that achieves is making your child angrier and more rebellious.

Physically punishing your child since they were small can make the child feel like they need to achieve in school to please you, not for their benefit. That is utterly wrong and if physically punishing them isn't working, why the hell do you keep doing it?

If your child tells you that and you answer with, "What should I do then?"

You need to be hit on the head because that's the question you should ask yourself, not to the child and pinning them in a corner.

I had obvious signs of depression since high school and my parents just said I was being lazy. They didn't know until a college councilor told my mom.

You know what? They knew I was suffering depression and they STILL think it's because I'm lazy.

They keep saying don't look at the past, but because of that, they're completely ignoring the causes of why I'm like this.

I wanted to be an athlete, a football or baseball player. My parents didn't allow me to play football because "You could die." and baseball I couldn't because my parents were too lazy to find a solution for me to go to baseball practices during the school year.

I was isolated in my room playing video games because I didn't have friends and they thought nothing was wrong.

I wanted a companion like a dog to make me happy, they said no because I can't take care of one.

Everything they say must be right. If they ask a yes or no question, I must say yes.

They told me to stand up for myself, but when I stand up for myself in front of them, immediately, "You're dumb." or "You're an idiot." or "Call the cops, I'm not afraid."

I want to be somewhere else, live somewhere else away from my family. However, I cannot since I have no family or friends to live with. They pay for my education and that will be gone once I am out the door.

I'm stuck in a bubble where the noose is constantly tempting me.

As a parent, do your job to help your child. Physically punishment should not be used unless absolutely necessary like if they commit a crime. For grades? Physical punishment is not the way to go. Bad hill to die on and you will have even MORE problems in the future because of your actions.

Admit to your mistakes, you are only Human. Don't play God and think you are without fault in your household.

Jesus, no wonder my sister hates my parents so much. Fortunately for my parents, I'm more patient and timid. I've bottled up so much of my anger and it hurts so much. Absolutely, I would've been living hell for my parents if I had the determination and bravery of my sister.

Actually, no...I would've just straight up killed myself if I was like my sister. Only reason why I haven't because I did not want to hurt others. I love and care for everyone, but my sister hates so many people.

Think of me as the depressed Fluttershy while my sister is an angered Rainbow Dash.

Always think far, especially as a parent. Even the smallest of actions can have great consequences in the future.

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