A lesson I've learned for myself, maybe it'll help you

So I know I posted a blog similar to this one a while ago, but I figured I'd reword it since I've been informed that the original didn't really help the message at all. So, first off, a disclaimer(?). What I write in this post is completely from my perspective, I am in no way trying to create a blanket statement or assumption about how people work, or how people think. This is just a way I've come to understand things in my own mind, and I'm posting it here because I feel like it's valid enough and it might help someone who sees it. So, onto the thing.

1. Everyone is a victim of circumstance. Everyone. We are all living in a world built off of the achievements, ruins, inventions, mistakes, and great works of our ancestors. And even then, our ancestors were in the same boat. If you wanna go even further, the first creatures to walk on land were just crawling around in the aftermath of space dust mashing itself together into the oblong ball we call Earth. Point is, our position in life was never predetermined. It was never destined. You just happened to wind up there (Heck, I'm somewhat religious, and I don't even believe a God would plan things out specifically. It would make a lot more sense to just let things roll the way they do. More freedom that way.). I find myself thinking a lot about what I did to be where I am now, and, other than my own actions throughout my life, I realized that I was also subject to the actions of everything else in existence. I don't want to go off on a tangent on that, but pretty much everything effects everything, one way or another.

2. Everyone, at the end of the day, is just trying to get by. Specifically, how they think they need to get by, by doing what makes them satisfied with themselves. And, oftentimes, people become so focused on others that they're only okay with themselves if other people are okay with them. A lot of times this gets out of hand, and then you find people completely obsessing over their image. Other times, you get people that act in such a way that it makes you wanna smash their face in. I see these people as the opposite end of the spectrum from vanity, which is all-out defiance and stubbornness. Instead of worrying about what other people think of them, in terms of image, they worry about how other people view their capability. I've seen vain people admit to making mistakes a lot more than people like this, because humility is of a bigger concern, but for people who worry about whether or not they can actually do something, not making mistakes in the first place seems to be of higher priority. So, when they do mess up, no matter how minuscule it is, they start making excuses, or trying to say what they did was the right thing. Simply because they don't want to give in and admit they messed up, they will get red in the face and argue on and on about how it either wasn't their fault, or it was what they were supposed to do. Why is that though?

3. A lot of people think the world is out to get them. I'd like to think this is a small minority in terms of the human population, but I'm guessing it's more realistic to assume a good 50% or so. People believe that if they mess up once, or however many times, they're, quite frankly, screwed. Now, there are many situations in life that I bet where that is true, but they are probably far and few between and many times the lives people lead won't encounter them at all. I can say for certain, though, that this is not everyday life. Let's say I'm walking down the street, and, just for pure simple example's sake, I trip and spill my piping hot coffee onto some guy's brand new suit. Now, the man could either come at me with words that would make a sailor tell him to calm down, or he could apologize and ask if I'm okay. Either way though, can I really think that he, or anyone walking by, is gonna waste their time just to make me feel bad for what I did? The man probably has things to do, as well as everyone else going by. They probably don't have even the time to care much. And even if everyone on that sidewalk/street thought I was completely in the wrong, what are they gonna do? Gang up on me? Beat me to death in the middle of street? How is that a realistic thought at all? People forget that other people have lives, too. I think I could go so far as to say that people forget other people are people. With emotions, conflicts, goals, dreams, and that they make mistakes too. They also have their own will, and there's no sense in worrying about what someone will do since you really can't control it. Maybe influence it, but not control it, or change it once something happens.

It's hard to put a final thought on this, because there's probably a lot more to say, but I'll just keep it short. If you read this, and take it to heart, and maybe even go off of it yourself, then thanks. If not, then thanks for reading it anyways. These ideas I've presented aren't a catch-all, either, and as life goes on you learn new lessons. This is just what I have right now.

Good night.