Huh...

*Reads a book about body language
When approaching or being approached, the first thing people look at are your hands.

*Reads a book about the body language of flirting
When Men see an attractive woman, they tend to put their hands at their waists... ...usually with their thumbs in their pockets.

Men want Women to look at their junk!

"Hey gorgeous, check out this polish sausage."

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[Outa-here]

Body language; what a bizarre yet fascinating concept! I can honestly tell you that, whenever I encounter a woman, especially if she's pretty and... *ahem*... let's say well endowed, her hands are not the first thing that catches my eye. Okay, you can pull your mind out of the gutter now. What I was going to say is that the first thing I look at is the eyes (always a good first choice, it tells me a great deal about a person before they utter a word.)

After that, and depending on the mood and general demeanor of said woman, I may or may not avail myself of a good, healthy view of what remains to be seen.

Also, I cannot recall a single time where I ever stuck my thumbs in my pockets. No, I just don't do that. But, then, come to think of it, I'm not your average guy, either. Rather more like a heterosexual version of Walt Whitman. (Go forth unto the rooftops and proclaim your mighty YAWP!

[Lost_Marbles]

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In the book about body language I read about body language, we may not notice it, but it claimed that subconsciously the first thing we look at for a fraction of a second is the hands before anything else (if the hands are visible). The theory stated is that this is a subconscious trait developed from way back when, when our ancestors had to be on the look out for weapons and other dangers. Like ever since that giant dark-chocolate bar fell from space and drove some apes apeshit.

But yeah, I think the "thumbs in the pockets" thing is a little silly. I do it myself, personally, but that is because I consciously try to keep my hands out of my pockets. I've read that people appear more open and confident with their hands exposed, but I'm kind of at the point where I don't know where to put my hands.

(I've read quite a lot of self-improvement books and care a lot about my public image.)

[Outa-here]

Like ever since that giant dark-chocolate bar fell from space and drove some apes apeshit.

I almost spit-taked my coffee when I read that then I laughed! Good one!

The theory stated is that this is a subconscious trait developed from way back when, when our ancestors had to be on the look out for weapons and other dangers.

That makes perfect since and, considering that humans have changed little, psychologically, emotionally and instinctively, from those earlier times, I can see how it would still apply even to the present day, especially since we now live in a much more violent, dangerous era than in previous decades. (The exception being the Sixties, of course, a time filled with all kinds of danger and risk.)

But yeah, I think the "thumbs in the pockets" thing is a little silly. I do it myself, personally, but that is because I consciously try to keep my hands out of my pockets. I've read that people appear more open and confident with their hands exposed, but I'm kind of at the point where I don't know where to put my hands.

Again that makes sense and, yes, the whole thumbs-in-pockets thing is silly now. But, it wasn't silly at all back in the fifties when it was cool to posture that way. Still, being the secure and confident type, myself, it never occurs to me to wonder what to do with my hands when I'm in public, normally not even noticing them at all, preferring to focus my attention on whatever interesting or fascinating thing may be going on around me.

Still, yeah, what most people don't realize (among other things) is that 90 percent of what we experience moment to moment goes completely unnoticed by our conscious minds. I've found this to be true. Having once done an experment to test this, I assumed a mental attitude and state of what Whitman called "living deliberately" (Yes, I know this is the second time I've mentioned him, he was truly phenominal after all.)

In any case I made a very strong effort to give attention to and note every single little thing happening to and around me moment to moment. You'd be surprised at just how difficult this really is, forcing oneself to note every detail. It's overwhelming at first but, eventually the mind, being the amazingly elastic, flexible and adaptive thing it is, does get accustomed to such a forced situation. The results were astounding and I did, indeed, find myself doing things I was previously and totally unaware of, also noting various and sundry actions in others that had previously gone unnoticed. It was a real eye-opener! (No pun intended.)