I need adivice... · 12:04am Nov 11th, 2015
see... there's this girl @ my school that I have a major crush on. Recently we've started talking on a deeper level than the "hey, how ya doin?" which has only made me like her more. I really want to confess my feelings to her but I have no idea how. I'm also terrified of how she'll react. I'm not entirely sure if she'd be willing to go out with another girl. any advice? What do I do???!!!
Granted, as a straight male, I don't know exactly how to handle every situation you might face in this day and age, but I've had a few relationships, and one thing remains constant: Be honest and forthcoming. While just blurting it out next time you see her is probably not the best call, trust your gut to tell you when to tell her how you feel. Above all, remain calm and stay true to who you are.
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It's just extremely terrifying. I don't know what she'll say. What if she says no and shows her friend? And then her friend shows her friend. And on and on untill the whole school knows that I like girls AND got rejected
3535461 It's rough. Not knowing what the other person will say is always one of the scariest factors of this sort of thing no matter who you are. However, if she's a decent human being and is a good friend to you, she won't show anyone she doesn't trust and she certainly won't use it to ridicule you.
Chances are, if she shows anyone anything, it's because she honestly is shocked because it seemed to come out of nowhere and she has no idea how to feel about it.
Pre-college relationships are overly complicated by the pre-college social scene insanity. When you get to your college years, things start to normalize to what they'll be later on. Until they do, all you can really do is be true to yourself and endure.
How long have you known her for? How much do you trust her? These are the questions you should ask yourself when considering something like this.
Hopefully this helps you out. Best of luck.
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You don't know my school. Even your best friend can stab you in the back if she can gain something. It's like the fking hunger games. But I see you're point. I can't be a coward anymore. I'm going to write her a note and put it in her locker. Wish me luck
3536230 Best of luck. I'd actually advise speaking to her about it face-to-face, in order to limit the "paper trail" if things are that bad at your school. I know it would be more intimidating that way, but you will get instant feedback as well as limiting physical evidence if, heaven forbid, things go wrong.
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Yeah I talked to my dad, who agrees with you. I think I'm going to ask a friend of mine (who I trust) and see if she can ask my crush weather she's straight or not. My friend has a much stronger friendship with her than I do.
3536370 That's a good idea. Don't try to rush this. Hope it turns out well.
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Me too Jim... Me too