An asshole is an asshole, regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation · 9:14am Sep 27th, 2023
In case you're wondering why that's the title of this blog post, yesterday marked one year since that arrogant asshole of a mod who is an artist from the NiGHTS fandom kicked me out of their Discord server.
I sympathized with their situation and expressed how I feel about it but their reaction rubbed me the wrong way.
I did my part by apologizing but the moment they said they don't have patience for people like me was when I had to set my boundaries by blocking them in websites where they have accounts. I didn't sleep well that night as I went through depression. I remember being so worked up about that for the rest of 2022, venting about it on Twitter and Tumblr, to the point that it took a toll on my mental health.
While they have the right to let off some steam about their ableist manager, it wasn't right of them to take out their anger on me.
That unfortunate experience made me realize that no matter how good an artist's work is, it doesn't excuse them to treat others unfairly. Also, having a disability and being part of the LGBTQ+ community isn't an excuse to be a shitty person (Their bio states that they have ADHD and identify as transmasculine).
Though there was a bright side to that experience. A Twitter user saw my tweets and said they were sorry for what I went through. We started talking in the DMs and they told me I wasn't alone as they said the artist has it out for them even though the user didn't say anything to them.
The user gave me words of reassurance which I truly appreciate and I've been committing to memory ever since. We became friends due to sharing similar experiences with the arrogant asshole.
I brought this up as a way of looking back and to see how I feel right now after one year has passed. It's safe to say that I feel better and I'm in a much better place. That asshole is out of my life and being surrounded with better people on different servers and focusing on things that bring me joy has helped me heal and move on.
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I'm not really that active in Fimfiction anymore, so rest assured this isn't about you. As I've said in the blog, the person who mistreated me is from the NiGHTS fandom.