GroaningGreyAgony's mother has passed · 12:01pm Feb 17th, 2022
...yeah. I couldn't exactly just edit the last blog on this one, could I?
It happened around 3 a.m. EST, at the hospice. Neither of us has anything more specific than that right now. The call went to him, and there weren't a lot of details involved. Just... too many strokes, I think. But she was looked after until the last, and I can hope she went without pain.
Everything I said in the previous blog still applies. I'm still going down to Florida with him. It's just that now, it's being done both for emotional support and to see if I can provide any help with final arrangements. We now have the unwelcome luxury of being able to stop overnight at a hotel, but I'll still try to help him get down in a single day if possible. I'm just not going to push if he's exhausted, and I may have to do a lot more of the driving.
We spoke a little more shortly before I started this blog, and the funeral was discussed. From what he knows, those arrangements were made and paid for in advance. (I'll post if that changes.) There's no current date set for the actual funeral, and he needs to contact the host. She'll be cremated, so an urn needs to be chosen.
There's a need to reach her phone. Most of the contact information for relatives is in it. It'll have to be picked up from the hospice.
If you want to offer condolences or anything else, you can do so at his userpage or in the comments here: he'll see them either way.
As with the previous blog, I have his permission to post his PayPal business link. (I should note that there's been at least one donation that I know of, and it's covering a good percentage of the fuel costs for the southbound portion. Thanks are given.) Both of us are losing work time, but I may be able to squeeze chapters in -- I hope -- and he's worse off than me there. I can find a quiet corner and try to write. He cannot flag people down in the street and ask how their hard drive is running.
...actually, it's Florida. The odds of being able to do that are not zero.
If anyone wishes to do so, please take some time to consider his story catalog. If you enjoy his writing, then sending a little fresh positive feedback might help as much as anything else.
I have to go pack now: leaving for the train in about two hours, and meeting him at a pickup point so he doesn't have to swerve to get me. I'll check in using the Discord server and blog comments: this entry may also be edited to keep things current.
It's going to be a very long trip.
Seeing off the one who took the final journey.
On the second train, about an hour from the pickup point. Heading directly into more bad news, because the car check (his, not mine) before the trip turned up a double-side rear caliper replacement. Plus rotors. Total bill: $900. He can pay, but it’s a huge hit.
…gimme my luck back.
My condolences
I doubt having a good trip is an option, but I hope you (plural) have a minimally bad one, at least. No difficulties on the road, etc., or anything to add more troubles, in general. Enough to deal with already.
And thank you, Estee, for the good work you do.
May an Angel's first flight be filled with joy,
May peace find the ones waiting for their wings.
Sorry to hear that. I pray she's in a better place
Peace to the fallen.
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This is not the place or the time.
I will pray for him and his family and friends, then, that Jesus shall bring them peace and comfort, and also for you that He will provide you a safe trip.
5636893 I'm not sure where your disconnect here is, but did you read the nature of their visit? If you're trying to be helpful or supportive, the tone and message you're sending is insensitive at best.
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I agree. If they wanted advice on food, they would have asked.
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I'm pushing 70. I've buried both parents, several aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings & classmates. December 31 2020, I got hit by a car & caught Covid in the hospital. So, soon enough it's my turn.
Does that count as a disconnect?
I stand by it. You got to be there, you might as well try the local food in between dealing with the lawyers.
But, IMO, it ain't worth arguing over so I will delete the post.
Be safe both of you and my deepest condolences.
oh, dear, maybe this isn't the best place to mention it, but...
my father passed away about 3 weeks ago.
I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers. I know how rough it can be right now (I lost my Mother to cancer). If you need to talk just know that I'm here for you.
To GGA: I'm very sorry for your loss. Hopefully the closure will help.
I'm sorry, GGA. May you and yours find comfort.
To GGA: Damn, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.
To GGA: all my sympathy. Rest as much as you can.
I'm sorry for your loss, GGA. It is terrible to lose someone, even when they're not in good shape living. My grandmother passed away this November. I believe that your mother and my grandma are in a better place now. I really hope her funeral can be healing and cathartic for you. And honor her memory properly.
Thank you for letting us know, Estee. Sorry I'm coming so late to the blog.
Sometimes you don't have the words for a while. I still don't.
My thanks to all for your well wishes and support.