The Return (again) · 10:42pm January 8th
Howdy. It's been a while. Hope you all have been well, I know I haven't been.
Okay honestly that's a bit of an exaggeration. It's not been too bad, all things considered. But, I figured it was high time y'all got some info from me, given it's been, uh.... several months since my last activity on here.
And I figured, let's do a timeline of Kodeake's Shitty Life! (Again, hyperbolic, things aren't that bad)
So, we actually start before my previous blog, as some preceding events are important for later ones.
In April/May of this (last? fuck) year, my grandmother was rushed to hospital from her home, and was eventually diagnosed as having had several small strokes. She's not able to take care of herself, and is unfortunately beyond the boundaries of what my family can provide in-home, so we eventually came to the conclusion that we needed to move her into a care home. This happened within a month or two of her hospitalization, and things were, mostly, going okay. She wasn't happy about it, but she's old and crotchety so we expected that. We weren't able to get her into our preferred care home, so she got moved somewhere temporary while we waited for a bed to open.
July - the previous blog happens. My mom royally fucks her leg with a quite severe injury. Average recovery is 6-12 weeks depending on the person. Being on long-term steroids can double that. Spoiler, my mom has been on long term steroids for years. So what could be a recovery window of a couple months becomes 4 - 6 with slower progress across the board. She can't walk at all for two-ish months, and for the month or two after that its very limited. I'm exhausted working full time and caring for her.
August/September - I'm tired as fuck, mom's not exactly mobile, we haven't been able to go visit my grandma in the home much. This is important. But we manage, time passes, not much writing gets done, sorry about that.
October - My mom is partially mobile, in an air boot instead of a cast, still limited walking. We get a call from the hospital - my grandmother has been admitted for a great big list of things. Interestingly, we got this call from the hospital, not from the care home. In fact, that care home does not contact us about anything until 2 days after she was admitted.
The doctors tell us they are doing everything we can, but we should prepare ourselves for the worst outcome.
She has an infected wound on her back so bad it has infected her fucking spine, as in, in the actual fucking bone, and a bladder infection so bad it's moving to her kidneys and it's just not pleasant.
Now, you might be asking the same questions we asked - this shit doesn't happen overnight. What the fuck were the nurses at the care home doing, why had we not been contacted at all, and why was it allowed to get to this point? That's spoilers for later.
November - they manage to save and stabilize my grandma. My mom is more and more mobile by the week, my workload at home decreases - just in time for my workload at actual work to double. It's black friday time, and I work retail. Fuck me. I'm dealing with that, my mom is talking to doctors and social workers about what the fuck went down.
Long story short, the doctors at the hospital make reports about the care home - not out right accusing them of negligence, but pointing out that the charts and notes they kept for her do not match the state she was admitted in. We arrange meetings with managment, and find out - the head manager of the home has been replaced. Several staff members have been let go. The social worker for the home is desperate to remind us that she's done a lot for us and has always been on our side.
Obviously, nothing here is official, but it sure sounds like we kicked up a lot of shit at that place. I'm not complaining - maybe they'll actually fucking take care of my grandmother now.
December - the 17th - It's my birthday! I'm 26. Fuck me I'm old. It's also christmas - double fuck me. Thursday, december 21st, I'm opening the store and prepping for the christmas sales. I get a phone call - Grandma's back in hospital. She needs emergency surgery. They do not expect her to survive. To be fair, this time the home did right - as soon as they found the problem we were contacted and she was taken to the hospital. She has a bowel obstruction that needs to be removed and might be cancer. She's 86 and not in the best of health, and has COPD. Her chances of surviving the surgery aren't great, and her odds at recovery are worse. But it's that, or she dies a slow, painful, guaranteed death.
She wants the surgery. She gets the surgery.
My grandmother is a fucking tank on legs and not only survives but recovers like she's a young woman in her 30's, not 80's. She also does not have cancer.
We spend christmas with her in the hospital while she's still recovering, and new years happens after that. My mom's injury is more or less fully recovered but being imobile for half a year has taken its toll on her and she's not exactly running any marathons, but she's moving around okay.
January - hey that's today! Life has slowed down. Grandma isn't exactly happy being back in that home but she's alive. Oh also we found out they were drugging her with morphine. That's a long story but isn't really their fault and we got it sorted. My mom is sore and still working from home, but she's walking more and more. I'm slow at work, and the stress is gone.
I'm finally, finally writing again.
So yeah - that's how my 2023 went. I'm super happy for it to be over lol. If you're wondering why I waited so long so post any of this, or update in general, it's because I wanted to wait until I actually had something to show for my time away. I didn't want to come back with another blog that was just "yeah, shit's happening, still no writing news".
Keen eyed among you may notice that implies I do have something to show.
Good job - have a cookie.
The next chapter of Instinctual is done. Honestly I had it almost done for like 3 months but never found the time or energy to get back on it properly. Anyway, that's sorted, I'm just doing the final editing passes, then it'll be up. A few days at most - there's a scene I wanna alter a bit. But it will be up by the weekend. Thank you for your patience. I can't promise these delays won't happen again but at the very least I can tell you that I am still very much on the Instinctual train and really looking forward to some upcoming chapters. For those of you reading this blog, here's a cheeky peak at an upcoming work in progress chapter name: Guru in Pink.
Yes, it will be a fun chapter.
Anyway, that's all I've got for you. It feels good to be back.
Until next time,
Kodeake out
goddamn c_c everything always happens at fucking once
holy shit :O awesome grandma! I'm glad this turned out well, now here's hoping that care home gets its shit together, now
Words can not describe my amazement nor my happiness to hear that your grandma made it through all that. Here's to hoping that the new year goes better for you and yours.
I'm so glad your grandma recovered! your story with the nursing home def reminds me of what my step dad went through in memory care
Return of the king. This is legendary, you honestly were one of the ones to inspire me to write as well. Good to have you back, and good to hear that the next chapter is coming because your POV on instinctual is honestly stunning. This is epic.
Glad to see you're still alive and kicking
I'm glad to hear life's getting back on track for ya, completely know the feeling of being derailed.
Can't wait to read all you want to write. Don't rush yourself and stay happy and healthy!
- Prism
yesss the person who got me into mlp fiction is back
Sounds like you had a godawful year. Are we gonna see some updates for A Rainbow at Dusk this year?