State of the Author 2023 · 4:16am Dec 18th, 2023
It's bad.
Real bad.
So it should come as no surprise that my wife and I are divorcing. We're having to take it slow because she's so close to the end of her degree and I want her to be in a good place to help take care of our boys. We're still co-habitating, still friends.
She burned through her dating phase real quick and met someone new. They seem to really care for one another beyond the copious boning they're engaging in. I'm happy for her. I made the mistake of looking through her phone one day, and I know that he's giving her what I couldn't. I'm glad she's happy.
I'm jealous, though. In what little free time I have, I've dipped my toe in the dating app scene. Of the three apps I'm currently active on, I've had exactly one match. And she never responded to the text I sent.
Wallowing in abject loneliness while the mother of my children relishes new love has kind of killed my urge to write romance for the time being. I've spent the last year tinkering on a romantic comedy that acts as a crossover between my Shining Armor/Rarity and Flash/Sunset stories. It's good. Too good for me to throw it away. But I haven't been able to touch it since October. Just not feeling the love, y'know?
On the plus side, my books published through the Festival of Fears can now be purchased online. Just click here.
I'm two stories away from 100, but I'm just not feeling the inspiration. The outright rejection of 'For Goodness Sake' didn't help things. 'Lawmare' and 'Scenes' need new chapters, but I just can't find the motivation.
I'm just... I'm just not in a good place.
I hope you're still here when I find my way there again.
Happy holidays,
Jade.
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I hope 2024 is kinder to you.
OH gosh, I'm sorry to hear all this, Jade. Sending you so many hugs and hopes for a brighter year next year.
I'm truly sorry to hear this. I hope the next year proves to be better for you.
There's usually a disproportionate amount of men on most dating sites. It's pretty normal for a lady to find more matches faster. Don't take it as a problem with you.
oh :(
We all love you bud, and we got your back. Always.
So sorry to hear you are going through this. Loneliness can be difficult to deal with, and I'm glad you want the best for her even now.
As far as dating apps goes, woman do have better chances, but they also have to deal with a lot of problems too. I'm not going get into it here, obviously.
Hoping 2024 will be a better year for you. Never know what might happen.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It still sucks she did this to you, but at least you are able to be amicable with each other still and put your kids first in everything (a lot better than what some divorcing couples do, that's for sure.) I totally understand stepping back from pure romance for a while. Maybe some horror (you write that pretty well and I actually thought "For Goodness Sake" wasn't too terrible) or comedy (something to take your mind off your troubles.)
Also, don't worry about not finding a match at once. Take a bit to search. Not everyone finds that one other person right after something like this. It might take a little bit, but we're all pulling for you.
Here's to hoping 2024 is better.
Damn it.
We'll keep a light on for you.
Hopefully you’ll be able to find your way soon, Jade. We’re all rooting for you!
Also, I read the For Goodness Sake story and I loved it! But I’m glad you used my title suggestion for it! :)
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Thanks, maestro.
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I'm glad you got my message, and I'm glad you liked the story.
Oh Jade.
*Puts a supportive hoof on your shoulder*
I'm sorry.
From one creative to another I wouldn't force writing. Shelf the fics for now, you'll feel like writing again. In the meantime, focus on you and your boys. Enjoy them, go to the park, get some ice cream, do science experiments, idk. Do something you can both enjoy together. :)
Your line of " I know that he's giving her what I couldn't" stands out to me. Now, I don't know what you mean by that, and in a sense it doesn't matter. That's personal. But it sounds like this guy is a better fit for her. And that doesn't mean you're a bad guy or there's anything wrong with you. Relationship have a lot of levels, and it sounds like this guy just clicks better with her. Maybe she's grown and changed and the clicking that you guys did, changed as she did.
In short, don't beat yourself up, Jade. These things happen. You had years with her, and loved her. Yes, that is ending but you'll still friends with her and you have two wonderful little boys.
You'll find love again, Jade. These things happen when they happen. And man, can they take awhile. But for now focus on yourself, your family and do things you love.
I'm here for you man, and if you wanna talk I'm here. (I think you have my email? You can message me and make sure its the right one if you want.)