Venting about an in law;

So, this is some bull shit.

My partners mother and her husband to be, (they’ve been engaged for over 12 years and they’ve been great to me so they’re practically my in laws) had a row.

Being that this will be their second marriage they both have children and they’re all grown up. My partners mum isn’t so close to her soon to be husbands eldest daughter.

They’ve never really been close ever since they met 12 years ago and it’s only soured over the last few years. They tolerate each other.

Now, men, here’s a golden rule when it comes to weddings:
- The Men choose who they want as best men
- The Women choose who they want as bridesmaid
- Neither side chooses for the other half.

My soon to be Stepdad in law has broken this rule.

He knows that my partners mum and his daughter aren’t close and already knew who she picked for bridesmaids and neither the daughter, nor my partners mum has asked each other if it was ok for her, his daughter, to be a bridesmaid.

Then, this happened, (his words);
“If you don’t make my daughter a bridesmaid, then the wedding is off.”

Me, My Partner and Her Mum;

This is a dick move any way you look at it. If any guy did this, I’d be annoyed at them too.

I can understand you want your daughter to be a bridesmaid, but it’s the brides decision, no ifs ands or buts.

Since then, he’s been giving her the silent treatment until he got his way.

He has and I’m not happy about this. If my dad or any guy I knew pulled this crap I’d be calling them out on it.

Be happy that she, your daughter, will be there at all.

I’m just...

Vent over, going for a walk.

Thanks for reading my bitch fest and take care.

Comments

[Sipioc]

If he is willing to call off the wedding so frivolously consider that a warning sign.

[RNBW]

I don't know how to deal with this, but wow. What's wrong with him?

[darkstone57]

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He’s not a bad man by any means. Everyone has a moment in their life where someone calls them out for being a dick. I know I have and so has he.

What’s more annoying is that the wedding was announced over a year ago and it’s only now he’s decided to speak up.

If I were him and my partner said no to my daughter being a bridesmaid I would have said; “While I’m not happy about I’ll respect your decision because it’s the brides decision on who she wants the bridesmaids to be.”

But, no. He’s been making her feel like crap about this whole thing and her excitement has all but gone for the wedding.