Never Give Up · 1:42am May 18th, 2016
Never Give Up
There seems to be a lot of people going through some hard times on the site so I just thought I would share something from my past that might be able to help other people who might be going through the same thing.
The best advice I can give to people who are being bullied online or at school is to just hold on and try your best. No matter where you go in life, how good you are, you will always encounter people who want to give you a hard time. But don't let those people get you down. You've always just got to push through and keep moving forward.
I was bullied a lot when I went through school (elementary school through university). In elementary school, there was a group of students who would give me and my friends a hard time. When we tried to ask for help, the teachers and other people in charge would always take their side because they were more popular and we'd always be the ones who got in trouble. My friends and I were always sitting in the councilor's office or in the principle's office being told we were wrong when we were the ones who were being bullied. I had to learn how to be tough and fight the bullies off on my own, which earned me a sort of a reputation as a tough girl or someone you didn't want to approach. Eventually the bullies backed off but I didn't like being labeled as a tough girl or someone to avoid because other people thought I was scary.
In middle school I worked hard to change my image. I didn't want to be labeled as a tough girl anymore so I tied to be more sociable and to make lots of friends. But eventually everything backfired when a rumor went around that I played mind games and I shut myself in my house for almost my entire eighth grade year, refusing to come out because I couldn't take the bullying. I seriously just wanted to give up. But one day a teacher came by with a basket and a card signed by all of the students in my home room. And the card said to not give up. To keep moving forward and concentrate on and love the people who were most important. Even though I knew that most of the students in my class were probably just writing what they were told, it still meant a lot to me. And because of that I was able to return to school despite being bullied and all of the rumors going around about me.
In high school, I also worked hard to make friends and fit in. But I again became the victim of rumors when I started dating someone that people were jealous I was going out with. These rumors carried into the town and I actually had a hard time finding work at certain places because students from the school also worked at those jobs. I always tried to just concentrate on graduating and making the best I could out of the situation but a lot of the time the rumors and the way people treated me really got me down. Somehow I did manage to get through everything however and I graduated with honors.
In university, I encountered professors who treated me with unkindness. One professor in particular accused me of plagiarizing a paper when I never did that and tried to get me kicked out of my English Major program. He had a lot of influence with the other professors so I was treated bad by most of the teachers in my program. Eventually I dropped out of school my junior year because I couldn't take the way I was being treated anymore. But somehow I was able to take out students loans and push myself to finish my English Major graduating at the top of my class despite how I was treated by the professors and sometimes even the other students of my program.
All of these experiences have taught me that even when a situation seem impossible to get through, you can always find a way to overcome any challenges life might throw your way. In times when you want to give up, you have to move forward. You have to forget about the past and do your best to continue on with your head held high. That is the best advice I can give to anyone who us being bullied at home, school, or the workplace. I hope that this can help others and inspire them to continue on even if things don't seem like they are going the best at the time.
That's what I hope with the new story I'm cooking up.
And what better way to teach that then when the only party Pinkie Pie?!
3952586 Your new story sounds like it is going to be awesome. I can't wait to read it.
Thanks, Lyra. Even though I don't deal with this anymore, haven't in years, I still remember what it was like, and you're absolutely right. The best thing to do is keep moving forward.
Thank you so much. This just brightened up my day!
Like many other people on this site, like you said, I've been insulted a lot in school. It's only gotten rougher recently (at least I have my friends). And knowing that I'm going to have to move isn't helping.. But I don't want to rant about that.
But It's glad to know there's a community like FImfic, where you can basically just be yourself, ya know? And even nicer to know there's certain people just mentioning their experience to help others.
Well, either way, thanks again!
3952593 You are very welcome. I wanted to post it for people who are going through a hard time to let them know that they are not alone and they can overcome their challenges if they just keep moving forward.
3952600 If you ever want to talk abouit it feel free to send me a PM. I would be happy to offer you any advice and support that I can. :)
3952601 I am glad that talking about my experiences could help in some way. If you ever need to talk about anything, feel free to send me a PM. I would be offer any advice or support that is needed. :)
I'm having some rough times. (Mostly because I'm forced to watch friends suffer.) But this helps to keep me going.
You are an Angel and an inspiration to many. We love you, Lyra.
I must be a pretty messed-up individual if the first thing I thought when I looked at that title was....
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3952628 I am glad that my experiences can help other people in some way. :) I hope that things will get better for your friends. Sending lots of positive vibes their way.
3952631 Thank you so much for the kind words. They mean a lot to me. :) I hope that the things I write can inspire other people to never give up and keep moving forward.
3952637 LOL Well, the titles are pretty similar so it makes sense. :P
Also, I like that song so I don't mind being Rick Rolled. :P I like it so much that I have listened to the ten hour version on repeat. Yes. There is a ten hour version.
There is also a ten hour version of the poptart cat. XD
I take it that you are from a small town were non religious oriented introverts are seen as antisocial freaks that maybe serial killers in their spared time?
That is actually a random guess. I myself am a child of a weird suburbia and I have always communed to the city since high-school. So while I did have a bully problem then, and I did fought back, I actually became a bit of a monster by embracing the Dreaded Berserker image that was formed for me from me simply not having the patience to take any shit. I always had good grades, but I wasn't loved by some of my teachers for my apparent mental instability. I've been called Ogre, and Retarded Coyote (Because I always failed chasing someone down, and I heaved because of my asthma.)
But enough of that. I'm really just a mess of an individual that likes to read, and probably should be better a managing his time.
(It wasn't until college that everyone was too busy to give a damn about social lives and image. It;s understandable considering that I did start out as a Mechanical Engeneering Major. The NERD was so pungent in the air that you could practically expect a DnD table to apear in a moments notice.)
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I've actually used the ten hour version of Nyan Cat as an interrogation method.
After the second hour madness starts to creep in.... And then there comes the urge to worship The Lord From the Corpse City of R'ley, Cthulhu!
3952678 I grew up in a small city with a lot of crazy people in general. It is one of those towns where everyone knows each other. And if you aren't with the 'in crowd' you can't get hired since...again... everyone knows each other.
It was a messed up town and I am glad that certain life events (namely running from a crazy family member) forced me to move away from it.
As for the Nyan cat video, I also sort of like the song and have listened to the ten hour version on repeat. Which I guess makes me a little weird, but oh well. :P
3952734 Much love to you as well, my friend.
3952803 I am always happy to help at any time. It's always my pleasure to offer advice and encouraging words to my friends. :)
3953519 That's not weird at all. That's a good song. :)