Crisis BARELY avoided... · 6:42pm Feb 27th, 2016
My dad is serious that if my mom even mentioned what was getting him mad the following morning, he'd file for divorce since it meant she hadn't learned. But, she thankfully didn't. But, it's still on pins and needles.
Right now, there's three main issues that my dad has with my mom. My mom said this morning she'll try to work on them.
One is accidental: her poor word choice. Example: when my dad said that he works his butt off and whatnot, she tried to defend herself, meaning that she works her butt off too, but actually saying: "At least I don't sit down and being lazy. I work hard too!" ...making it sound like she thinks that he does the 'at least' part.
Two is something she had no excuse over: her constant nagging. She's constantly nagging him to work harder, and in one fight, even said he needs to 'eat, sleep, and breathe cars' out of anger till we get our financial issues not so unstable. I understand that she's concerned about the bills, but that went too far. She acknowledged that and is going to try and avoid bringing it up any more.
Three is something that's a mutual problem: He says that she's stopped showing any signs of love or caring for his well-being, calling her cold hearted and the like. Her retort for this is accurate though: "It's hard to love someone that's angry at you all the time." Which is very much accurate. Both of my parents are hard headed, and my dad has an incredibly short temper that has gotten worse over the years and refuses any psychiatric help. So, this part is very much mutual between them.
As it is, I've helped to the point of getting my mom to realize her current problems and getting her to try to change. But, by the time I woke up(couldn't get to sleep cause my dad got home and continued fighting for a bit, till at least 1:00 in the morning, and the resulting stress did 'wonders' to my body, making it take even longer to get to sleep)... anyways, by the time I woke up, he was already gone to work, so I'll try and get him to realize his sort of the issue there, as well as to try and get him to calm down further due to the fact that she'll try and fix those issues about herself.
...and my mind and body are still @_@ from this.
Wish you luck in that