Need to Vent some stress · 1:00am Dec 21st, 2022
Hey everyone, I wish this was a more positive Blog but things are not going to well right now and I need to vent.
So my Mom has a guy she see's as a father figure, who's 93 or so years old and physically doing very well... mentally is a totally different story.
As time goes on his memory is getting worse and worse, and it's at the point where he can no longer take care of himself. Just this winter he kept messing with his furnace even though it worked fine as he simply doesn't remember, and eventually he's not even going to remember my mother. 
So Mom has been trying to come up with something but nothing so far is looking good without major changes to any of our lifestyles; He refuses to leave his home (which I can understand) and putting him in a home has a F
ing wait list that could last years thanks to the fact the system is broken beyond repair here.
It's looking more and more likely we'll have to move him in with us, which might happen soon if nothing else comes up.
Needless to say I'm very stressed out as I'm one of these people that find changes like this scary. I just don't know everyone, I just don't. Depending on what happens I might have to take a hiatus that might last for a long while. I do enjoy writing and have no intention of leaving at all, but with everything going on I might not be able to do any for a long while. I'll still do quick log-ins to check on things, but I might not have anything new for a time because of all this.
Seems like I might not be having a jolly Christmas this year. 
Thanks for listening, here's hoping I can bring some good news soon.
Sorry about your mom's friend. I hope that things get figured out soon, and to everyone's satisfaction.
I'm sorry to hear your holidays aren't going smoothly. It's never easy when age and time start to take their toll, especially on the ones that we consider family.
You do what you need to do; I'm sure the other writers here will understand. You need to take care of yourself first before you can worry about others.
Good luck going forward. Here's hoping things get better in the future.
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Thanks, both of you, from the bottom of my heart.
I do have some good news thankfully, now I do still live with my parents (I mean roof over my head and we can split the work (it's a old house after all but still standing strong) and all, plus prices for housing here are a bit too high for my liking and only growing, I would like my own place but I think I've pretty much taken permanent root in the house I grew-up in
) and this was stressing us out greatly, but Mom understood why I was so stressed and together we made the choice to not move him in, not just because of that but several other things too (not sure if I can or should share what, but him losing his memories might explain a few things) so now she's looking for other methods.
And I'm happy to say she's found at least a few leads and ideas to try from others who have been or are in the same situation as us.
Not any fixes for lack of a better term for now, but at least we're not chasing our tails in the dark so I consider that a win.
So I'm feeling much better now, though Mom is still stressed but she's doing better too. Here's hoping our holidays will be at least a little more smooth from here-on-out.
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Same.
Don't be afraid to keep us in the loop. It's never a problem when our friends need someone to vent to or talk about their problems.
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That's definitely positive news. Here's hoping it continues looking up.
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Thanks again, really appreciate it.
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Always happy to help. 👍