I have a confession to make, and I would like some advice about it. The reason I chose to make my confession here is because I realized that I need help from a reliable source that is willing to acknowledge the darker side of things and can help me come to terms with my flaws and problems. This is a topic that I feel my fellow Christians would best be able to help me with, even if you all are not in my position.

Are you ready to hear me out? Just be warned, this is a topic that has to do with sexual matters.

Before I make my actual confession, I need to tell you something relevant to my confession. I am what you call asexual. That means I either have no interest in or am unable to feel sexual attraction to others. In my case, both. Now, you may think this is a good thing because I can't fall victim to sexual sins, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions yet.

The reason for that? I also have a fetish, one that I consider to be very uncommon. And while I know sexual sins are some of the worst kinds because our bodies are the temple of God, I honestly would rather indulge in my fetish than allow the alternative to happen during the night: wet dreams. That's the body's way of releasing built-up, well... you know. I especially despise those because of the mess, and they make me have to change clothes more times than I would like to. And since I'm an asexual, the only way my body can relieve itself of the “stuff” is wet dreams or my fetish.

Now, steel yourselves for my actual confession... What my fetish actually is.

And that... is nostrils. No, not for snot or anything like that. I hate gross stuff. Rather, I just like the feel of them. It's weird, I know. Not even I know why I like nostrils or the way they feel. And curiously, nostrils aren't always a fetish for me; they also happen to be an unusual interest of mine.

I just want to know, what should I do about my little dilemma? I suffer wet dreams if I abstain from my fetish for long amounts of time, but I don't want to do the wrong thing and dishonor God with what I'm doing to my body when I indulge in my fetish.

And another thing... I feel kind of lonely having such a strange fetish and interest, and I was hoping to find someone who shares my unusual interest or fetish. I know I could probably join a fetish group and ask around there, but I'm afraid of journeying towards the dark side of the Fimfiction community. It'd make me happy to find someone who had an interest or fetish similar to mine, because that way I'd have someone to be able to freely talk about my interest with. So if you know anyone who fits that description, could you please have them contact me by PM or a comment?

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Well, in my almost 60+ years on this planet, I have to admit that's a first!

The good news is sexual temptations are all covered under Scripture, no matter how...hmmm..."unusual" they may be. As a believer, you have a resource Who resides within you Who guides, leads and instructs you daily. You are doing well to bring this out into the open, so that other believers may pray for you, and I also suggest grounding yourself in the Word. In this way, you may have a firm foundation from which to proceed, and not have to try to rely on feelings and/or emotions.

It has also been my experience that "wet dreams" are not a result of sin, but are indeed a release, so instead of being ashamed of them, one should be glad they happen from time to time. With very, very few exceptions, dreams do not reflect one's actual actions. They can be bothersome, especially if one dreams of committing an act they would never do in the waking world, but that does NOT mean one is guilty of them. The Enemy is quite adept at making us feel guilty for things we think about, how much more so the things we sometimes dream.

For your particular fetish, I'm afraid you'd have to search far and wide, for a very long time, to find someone with the same. As I said at the beginning, I've been around for going on 60+ years, and this is the first I've heard of such a thing. I've spent time in the military, and been all over the planet, so I haven't led a sheltered life. I've seen things I can never unsee, (and done things I'll only forget once I make it to Heaven, Lord willing), which makes me all the more grateful for Jesus and His forgiveness.

"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."---Matthew 11:28:29

Cling to words like these and pray...you will be fine.

I only have two comments: first, wet dreams are not sins, at least in my understanding and belief. The body needs to release sometimes. It's lust, the deliberate arousing of sex impulses outside of marriage that is adultery or fornication. I would say that wet dreams are preferable than indulging in the fetish on your own.

Second, and this is much more based on my opinion than actual theology or church teachings, I don't think there's anything wrong with what two consenting adults choose to do with each other. There's a very good chance you may find a partner that will at least tolerate your fetish, even if they don't share it. The sin isn't in the fetish, per se, it's in the selfish focus on self, which very often includes abuse of another, as the porn industry abuses people.

I don't have a clear answer on this, as I've struggled with porn and my own fetish for most of my life. With my last girlfriend, I told her my fetish and struggles, and she was open to it. The relationship didn't work out, though.

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I think there's been a misunderstanding. First of all, I never said I thought wet dreams were sinful or immoral; I simply don't like having to clean up the mess they create. And second of all...

I don't think there's anything wrong with what two consenting adults choose to do with each other. There's a very good chance you may find a partner that will at least tolerate your fetish, even if they don't share it.

That wasn't what I meant by lonely; I meant I wanted a friend who shares my interest or fetish, not a romantic partner.

Nonetheless, thank you both for understanding and trying to help me. I appreciate it.

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You're quite welcome! May the Lord continue to bless you in your journey.

...being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;---Phillipians 1:6

I'm not sure what denomination you are, but you can try praying the prayers of the Angelic Warfare Confraternity for purity.

https://awconfraternity.org/prayers