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Oct
4th
2021

I just cut ties with a toxic friend · 1:26pm Oct 4th, 2021

At least I think I did. Cutting ties with a toxic person is never an easy task. And I'm terrible at it. The last time I directly cut things off with a person, it happened around 2015, and it took him to press a berserk button with a jackhammer (praising Pinochet) for me to finally stop talking to them. And even then, we did keep some kind of contact for some time.

This time, it wasn't like that. This was years of build up, until I realized the person in question only had me as someone to talk about themself and things I do consider harmful, without a care for me as a person, or what I had to say too. At which point, I realized I was being harmed because of the situation and that there was nothing to talk about because of that.

Point is, I had to either establish a boundary or cut ties. I think I phrased it in a way that either does the first, or accomplish the latter. And I have an bit of a inner turmoil of emotions; said it had to happen, kind of relieved I did it and angry at both myself and the person in question.

Yet, I don't regret doing it.

Recognizing someone in our lives is a toxic person is something important, specially when it comes to cutting ties with them when it's a harmful situation. No, it isn't easy, but keeping the relationship up for the sake of it is far worse. In the end, one ends up being the target of that toxicity, be it directly or indirectly, and the emotional harm takes a toll in one's mental health.

So, that's about it. Please take care and be mindful of others too.

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Comments ( 4 )

Sorry to hear that dude. Seriously.

5591540
Thanks for the support. You've been a patient person with me.

Sometimes you gotta let go the toxicity. Be it people or stuff in your life.
Mental Health is important and anything that brings that down needs to be weeded out.

Good on ya for recognizing that. Hope you have good week my friend.

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You too, my friend.

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