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SweetBanana


Unapologetically Trans. She/Her. I like to write things, and get weird at times.

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Feb
9th
2021

So, the worst case scenario ended up happening · 1:27am February 9th

As you may have known fron a previous blog, I discovered I am transgender. Recently I got referred to an endocrinologist and there was no way I could hide it. So I had to come out to my parents who, in these troubling times, I still rely on as I'm going through college.

It went about as expected. In 30 days I will be without a home, car or insurance. I've set up a gofundme, and any contributions would be greatly appreciated as they'll go directly into helping me transition and afford this upset in my life.

Help me afford my transition here

Here is my ko-fi if you want to leave a smaller donation

And here is my info for commissions

Here's my paypal if you want to give directly

Edit: Here's an update on my situation

1. I'm still with my parents, but don't worry. I have friends I can stay with on short notice in the event there is a blowout and I don't have the 30 days. Campus housing is also an option if needs be.

2. I have a part-time job, so I do have a stable and secure method of income outside of donations. I'll probably need to bump my hours up but I can manage it

3. Food wise I'm set, I can live on the income I get through my job and I'll likely qualify for assistance.

4.I'm going to start working on an expenses sheet, just so I can see what needs to be purchased and whatnot. Transitioning and living on my own is going to take a fair amount of money, so I'll likely bump the gofundme up higher.

5. Thank you all so much for the support, it means the world to me right now

Comments ( 48 )

That's terrible! Donated.

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Thank you, it means more than you know

That’s disgusting. I’m so sorry. I’ll give what I can

I'm so sorry, that is awful. I hope you can get the contributions you need

*sees you're from Kentucky* Yeah, that tracks. Screw your parents, familial love should be unconditional. Hope my donation helps.

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It most definitely will. I wish I could have been raised in a less shitty part of the country, but I'm afraid one can't choose their 'parents' sadly.

Gave what I could, I'm so sorry you're in this situation. I'm always here if you need me.

Are there any charities or homeless shelters in your state that'll take you in?

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Im meeting with a LGBTQ support group on Wendsday for that specific purpose

I'm so sorry. I'm glad to hear you're already reaching out for the help and support you need to make it through this.

You don't even know how much this pisses me off, to see parents pulling shit like this. It's good that you're reaching out. I don't have that much, but I'll give a little myself and I'm here to talk if you ever want. :fluttershysad:

I hate parents like this. Sorry mate. I'll pray for you.

Donated and linked. Best of luck.

I don't have extra cash right now, but I'll help spread the word

I'm so sorry. Nobody should be treated like this. I can't chip in much and I don't have an audience, but I'll give what I can.

Estee #16 · February 9th · · 1 ·

I have to ask a few questions here -- and you shouldn't feel as if you have to answer any of them. I just feel like you're lowballing your GFM amount, and that there may be more problems coming than you've currently considered. And it's understandable if you haven't considered them, because you're in a high-stress situation and the pounding heartbeat tends to block out some of the subtleties.

You don't have to answer anything I'm about to ask. But some of them are things you might need to think about.

* What is your current living situation? With your parents? Off-campus housing, which they were paying by the month? On-campus, same?

* If you are living with your parents at the moment, can you switch to campus housing (if available)?

* How are you managing food? Campus meal plan?

* Do you have a part-time job? (I realize this can be almost impossible in a college town. Way too much competition.)

* Have you worked out the math on exactly how much you need, per month, in order to keep going? (Remember to include an amount for Because Things Happen.)

* Does the college itself have any support programs?

* If you're in campus housing of any kind, do you have a plan for what happens when you hit summer? It might be possible to take extra classes if the college offers dorm living during a shortened semester, but without that... And the same problem applies if you are on a meal plan.

* After considering all of the above, do you need to revise your GFM total?

And one piece of general advice: if it's a total break from your family, make sure you get every personal possession which you can prove as being yours. Even if you have to include a small storage locker in the monthly budget, you'll need access to your things. Starting over is easier when you have some furniture for the ground floor.

I'm sorry for what you're going through.

I am here for you......you always have someone to lean on here, okay? :heart:

Have spread the word, hope you get all the money you need. No woman deserves to suffer that kind of bigotry from the ones who are supposed to love them.

Yeesh. Message for your parents: go double-check the kind of people Jesus hung out with.

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Agreed. Screw the parents.

This is just awful. They shouldn’t have the right to do this. You’re their daughter. If they can’t realize this, it’s their fault. You can feel free to speak with me whenever you want. You deserve to be safe and happy.

You don't deserve that. If I ever had a kid that was trans, I'd still love them.

I'll be sure to pray for you.

I wish there was something i could do. Im unemployed so i got no money to donate.

I'm sorry you're going through that & no offense intended toward you, but...your parents are douchebags. It sounds like if your parents had a child who was born with severe physical, mental, emotional psychological & developmental problems, they would have treated that child the same way that they treat you for being Transgender, or worse.

What your parents are doing is awful, I honestly hate people like them with every fiber of my being, I do hope that one day they realise the huge mistake of their actions towards you while you move on and lead your best life possible with people who truly care about you for who you are.

Geez. I hate when I hear about people coming out resulting in something like this. It really isn't fair. I'm so sorry you have to put up with parents like that (though it sounds like you won't be anymore).

Donated and boosted. I hope everything turns out alright for you. Please keep us all in the loop.

I have no way of spending money online (I have no bank account), nor an audience, so I don't know if I can really do anything tangible to support you. For what it's worth, I'm really sorry about what happened. I don't know if the whole Polar Vortex thing will be still around by next month, but between that and the pandemic, I can only hope you can, at least, get some place to stay safe for the foreseeable future.

I honestly mean no disrespect or offense to you, but I was reading some of your other blog posts, and from what I understood, your parents seem to be the neglectful, Bible-thumping sort that seems to be endemic to some areas of the United States (please correct me if I'm wrong). I can only hope they're pleased with themselves, thinking they've got even the slightest chance at Heaven after their own, ahem, "son" (if they told you to leave, then they clearly don't seem to think of you as their "daughter") asked them for comprehension and support, and they decided to kick her off the bloody house.

And then, I sincerely hope you can get through this, that you can successfully complete your transition, and can leave as good a life as you possibly can with people that actually value you. I don't pray, but I will keep you in my thoughts (for what little that may be worth).

Your parents just lost their human being cards.
Edit: By which I mean that, by effectively disowning their progeny, by kicking a fellow human being out onto the street, the parents no longer deserve to be recognized as such. If you are downvoting this, you are all but implicitly endorsing their actions.

The PayPal link seems to be to the My Profile page, not your actual page for receiving payments. Clicking it takes me to my own profile, for example. Works now. Sent some your way. I'll reblog this, for what it's worth.

Stay as safe as you can.

Your situation is far worse, but can somewhat relate with my dad being anti-brony (transphobic too, although not my issue) and me in a delicate situation on if I can keep a house i foolishly let him help me buy. One day people will look back and say what closed minded idiots the adults were, till then, my heart goes out to you.

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I have Autism, probably other stuff.

The high school had to force them to get a diagnosis. My disorder was known about since elementary.

I've been diagnosed with CPTSD. I think that's all that needs to be said.

Signal boosted.
This horrible, just horrible :fluttershbad: This is no way for a parent to treat their child. Please be safe out there "offers you lots of hugs"

Ugh. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. Not much I can do, but I've boosted the signal, at least, and definitely good luck to you!

5451524 The school system isn't exactly kind to kids who are disabled. They label the kids & do anything & everything to cheat them out of an education, which prevents the kids from ever having real jobs, or a life after high school. I went through it myself, so I know how bad things like that can be. I do hope things get better for you though.

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While I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment, I feel a small caveat might be in order.

I wouldn't put a child in need or a transgender person in the same category as lepers and prostitutes. Sweet Banana doesn't need ministering to. She isn't suffering from a vice. She doesn't need to be fixed. She's just trans, and there's absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about that whatsoever.

I know what you meant, though, and I cannot understand how a parent could possibly abandon a child for any reason, much less because of something they can't control that does no harm to anypony else. I'm so fortunate that my parents love me.

Hugs you tight

Ima be honest: I don't support LGBTQIAP or any of the others. But kicking you out of their house is wrong. I can't provide money but just know that i am srry they did that.

I wish I could donate but no money rn but I can help with moral support I came out gay my family excepted me for me but I heard stories like urs I am so sorry ur parents did this to u but I can talk anytime if u need someone to talk to

I'd love to help, but I'm on disability and thus a fixed income. I just wish I could send more than virtual hugs and good wishes. I'm probably your parents' age, myself, and the thought that anyone could disown a child because they discovered something about themselves that changed how they saw who they were is simply reprehensible. I don't care what anyone's religious or ethnic viewpoint is. The moment anyone kicks a dependent child out of their house, they cease to have my respect, and any value as a human being.

Edit: Managed to find a few dollars in the budget. It's not much, but I hope it helps!

I have to say signal boosting here on FF is nothing short of amazing. Sorry for your situation, donated some, hope it helps

5451561

The school system isn't exactly kind to kids who are disabled.

How long ago did you go through the school system? I went through it from the late 80s to the early 00s and my experience is very similar to the one you're making. Today I have a niece and two nephews who have problems ranging from simple hyperactivity to autism and the school system has been a completely different experience with them receiving a great deal of help and not being segregated from the other kids.

5452300 I was in Early Educational Needs before Kindergarten, but then I entered Kindergarten in 1985. Things were so bad with the students, the teachers & the faculty making my life miserable, that in 1997, I quit school. I went back though & after two years rather than a year like it should have been, I got an actual diploma in 2000, but only jut barely.

I can’t donate but my mother’s going through a similar situation right now. She not transgen but her own mother’s currently in late stage dementia and her elder brother has been trying to bully her in all sorts of ways in order to get money out of her (he’s been doing the same to my two other maternal aunts as well). She knows that her mother doesn’t see her as an individual (as apparently said maternal grandparents are ultra traditionalists and neither wanted girls) but my mother still loves hers so she’s hurting internally even though she’s been basically deprived of everything even an inheritance simply cause she was born the wrong gender. You can’t choose your parents but you can chose to never have anything to do with them ever again no matter how they might feel about it later on.

Still it’s extremely unreasonable and rather callous for them to be throwing you out of the house in the dead of winter in the middle of a pandemic transgender or not!

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Your situation is far worse, but can somewhat relate with my dad being anti-brony

That is not even remotely comparable.

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