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Ribe_FireRain


Mental instability at its finest and aspiring punk rock musician. PS: Buy a creator a coffee to keep him awake? https://ko-fi.com/firerain

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  • 146 weeks
    My Very Last Blog Post - Goodbye

    As of now, I think the time has come to finally abandon my Fimfiction page. I don't particularly want any involvement in the MLP community any longer and I hold no interest in continuing to be an active member. While my page remains open to everyone, I've logged out permanently and don't think I'll return to it or use it again. No more blogs, no more stories, no related content - it's over.

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  • 146 weeks
    I'm never going to be the person that... (Facts of life)

    I'm never going to be the person who goes out drinking with friends in the pub at the end of the week,
    I'm never going to be the person to enter a stable relationship,
    I'm never going to be the person to cry for those who won't cry for me,
    I'm never going to be the person who gives up over a little tough break,

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  • 146 weeks
    Either stay or leave. Don't play me about.

    If you're staying, stay.

    If you're playing around with me, kindly fuck off. I'm not in the mood.

    Either follow or don't follow. It really is that simple. Make up your mind already.

    Thank you. :ajsleepy:

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  • 146 weeks
    Need a distraction from your low mood? Here's an old photo of my guinea pig :3

    Because I'm sad and because my guinea pig is an adorable fwubby enchanted squeaking potato, here's Oscar laying down and snuggling into his brother, Guinness's guinea bum. Don't ask why he did that, just look at how cute he's being. Requires all the ear rubs. Should have called him Sir Purrsalot. 🐹

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  • 146 weeks
    ''Applejack, are you gay?'' French Translation - if you're interested.

    Back when I introduced this story a few years ago, I was approached by a French Translator called Rainbowsoarin007 and they requested me to allow them to turn my story into a French translation for viewers in that part of the world and those who speak it.

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May
26th
2020

Do me this one favour: show love and affection to everyone in your life and in your relationships · 9:02am May 26th, 2020

I don't have much to say here, but what I do have on my mind is important, tailored to everyone out there reading it.

The only thing in the world that everyone on this planet wants is love. I'm not talking about just the romantic side, but rather the knowledge that others care about them, meaning family, friends, significant others, etc. Everyone needs it, everyone wants it, most can only dream of it, and I find it personally sad.

There's nothing poetic about it, so I'm not going to bother saying it like a Shakespearian rhyme. Instead, I want you to stop for a minute and think about it. Think about what you have and what you desire, then think about how many others want that, how desperately they would sacrifice anything for it, to be told they are cared about, that they are loved and others would miss them if they were suddenly gone, here one day and gone the next. I don't know if you're in a simple, committed relationship, if you're a fiancé, or if you're married, or maybe only friends.

Every single day, I think about this one line: ''Be a man and tough it out. Men don't cry.'' All I have to say is this: ''Bollocks.''. Men do cry. Everyone cries! We're humans, not macho bigots with bravados bigger than the cigars we smoke! The point I'm making is that most of us are too scared or too anxious to let others in and express ourselves. I hate the fact that's the world we live in, that it's what everyone has to put up with, regardless of age or gender. Whoever invented the 'be a man' saying needs to be slapped repeatedly on each cheek with a lead glove.

Open up to each other, check on each other and see how you're all doing. Although I've personally given up on the concept of love, giving your loved ones a tap on the shoulder and checking in at least lets them know you care about them deeply and you want them to stick around. If you truly loved the one you're with, you wouldn't hesitate to ask them this and to sit down and chat with them, let them in on the big and little things, anything that might be bothering them or yourself. Go on, offer your shoulder and your ear. Hell, give them a hug and don't let go.

Nobody likes having the lingering gloom of a thundercloud over their head set to constant downpour when they never get told they're loved, they are cared about, they've done something to make you proud of them, or anything in-between. Speaking from personal experience, I can tell you that such a lack of expressive affection does knacker up your mind and hurt you deeper inside than you'd imagine. Right now, I know for certain all of us need some love and affection, even if we're all a bit tense and testy given the state of things.

All I want you to do for me is this one favour: show love and affection. Don't be shy to do so. Scrap that 'be a man' jargon and let others in. A friendly chat always does some goodness and stability in any relationship, so it wouldn't hurt.

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With love, from England,
- FireRain 💛

Comments ( 12 )

"All you need is love."

Lennon and McCartney.

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Exactly what I thought.

FireRain, this is a fantastic blog post.

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A world without love is a world that isn't worth the time living in. Have you heard of this quote? - ''It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it but few have seen it.'' - Francois De La Rochefoucauld. I wish the world was the reverse of this.


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Gracias. 💛 I think it really needed to be said, not because we're all disconnected from our loved ones now, but rather because humans need to start opening up and stop living in a cage of old-world macho man ideology. Those times are gone and times do indeed change. Love is free and should remain as such for others to express it without feeling stupid about saying it when they have the chance to. Truth is, they neglect to take that chance and when they decide to open their mouths to finally say it, that person they love is either out of their lives or dead. One day, you may not get to say it, and most people don't, which is sad. :unsuresweetie::ajsleepy: Nobody wants to feel unloved or uncared about.

Huk

The only thing in the world that everyone on this planet wants is love. I'm not talking about just the romantic side, but rather the knowledge that others care about them, meaning family, friends, significant others, etc. Everyone needs it, everyone wants it, most can only dream of it, and I find it personally sad.

What makes you say this is what everybody wants?

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Love is the basis in any relationship, Huk. It doesn't matter exactly what kind of relationship you're in, if any, but it's nice to know you're cared about and wanted by those others in your life. Think about it; if we didn't have love for each other, where would we be, exactly? I doubt we'd have a level of common ground and empathy if we didn't have any love or care to give. Then again, I can't speak for others, seeing as not everyone believes in the concept (technically myself included), but it is there, even if only minutely. If any of that makes sense?

I certainly will show love and affection

This kind of made me think a wee bit of my father, in part of the main point, and what you said about "Men don't cry"

I both agree and disagree with that statement and with what you said about it. Men do cry yes, we have emotions like anyone else and we should not 100% hold them in,
at the same time though, men should hold them in around those that depend on them, especially father's should. A man, especially a father, is supposed to be a figure people look to during situations, as someone they can rely on, as someone to let them know "everything is alright" and if it isn't, to make it so. Men should hold it in, not for some ego or pride, but for those around them, they are the rock that people cling to during a storm, even if they themselves are being torn apart, they must be strong and be that rock for their loved ones until the storm for them has passed. Once said loved ones are calm and easy, then the man can find somewhere away from them to cry, to fall to his knees and weep, to pound the earth with his fists in frustration and yell to the heavens above in anguish.
My father was an example of this. He may have not been what many would call a manly person. He was not that athletic, or liked to work in the garage, or anything else but in this way he was a man through and through. I only had a few times in his life seen him cry, and it was scary because it was an experience I was not at all use to. He was always the rock for me and my brother to cling to. He smiled calmly and warmly, embraced us when we needed it, always there to bring ease to our souls. He cried when he found he had mold in his lungs, he cried because he knew it meant his time on earth was limited. He thought he was alone in his phone conversation, until I hugged him. He almost instantly put his mask back on, the tears stopped, he was calm once more, he had the facade of strength, all to make me feel as thought things were alright. It was his sacrifice, his sacrifice he made to us, so that we may be at ease. That is what I view it to be when they say Men shouldn't cry, it is not for themselves or ego, but for their loved ones around them.

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...Now you've said all of that, I would definitely agree that parents, fathers or mothers, whichever holds the form of the rock / provider of the family, do put up a face of authority in rough situations. Pretty much every single family out there has gone through this, as a sign not to show weakness when it gets tough, enough to persevere and maintain family morale, even if the situation is bad, regardless of the nature of the issue, be it financial or anything similar. If they falter in their facade, then it won't be only the rock that tanks, it'll be everyone they love, which is so scary in itself.

Pressure gets to everyone, whether or not they let it show. I'd say they don't particularly like or enjoy putting on the 'Man Act', but it's become a bit of a necessity nowadays, and obviously throughout history. As you say, a father is meant to be a person his family can rely on, somebody to tell them it'll be okay and that they'll get through the rough patch. I'm picturing my own father, actually, upon hearing your story. Man, there's some strong sympathy, right there. I've never seen my dad cry once. He's had it rough, especially when I was a kid, but the closest I've seen to him being upset to the point of nearly crying was when our dog died, that we've had since I was a pre-teen. He loved that dog, and I easily saw through his act when he finally died. It hurt to see, to be honest.

And your dad sounds like a pretty decent bloke. A dad that cares will always do what he can to keep his family going while he has the time to do so, and he'd do it out of love. It's the sweetest gesture a parent can offer. I'm no good with words, Fantasy, but I will say that if I could hug you right now, I wouldn't hesitate. This is the best I can offer you for now - *Hugs you*

Huk

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Hmm... For me, love is something as mythical as some beast from Greek mythology. I keep hearing about it, but I've never experienced it. Or if I had, it wasn't anything really memorable.

Maybe I'm just cold...

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*gives big hug* It is greatly appreciated.
It is true. One truth that has existed from the beginning and will exist likely to the end, is that just about all of us will need someone like that, a rock, to cling to, and some of us will need to one day become that rock for another. It isn't a job that is asked for, or a job that is desired entirely, but it is a job that is needed, to be what keeps everything from falling apart.

It definitely sounds like your father answered the call when a rock was needed. I had lost a number of pets before, loyal companions to the end, three dogs, two cats, one of whom was the friendliest lap cat to ever nuzzle your hand. He loved those pets, he loved them dearly. When they died, he only frowned and said her was sorry to us, I knew it upset him, but he was there for his sons when they lost the closest friends that were there everyday.
I have no doubt your father has done much the same at point from what you have said.

And he was. He was a good father. He did so much for us, and I never even understood this until later. Kinda funny how it is, you only truly grasp what someone has done for you when it's too late to tell them how much it meant to you, and how you were sorry for not understanding it sooner. It was the gift he gave to us always, the burden he carried to the very absolute end, the final gift he gave to his sons....*hugs tight once more*

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You'll know love when you see it. It's often unnoticed in those around you until you spend some considerable time together and things become more clear. You're not on your own in hearing about it but never witnessing it; that's almost the whole world. Compatibility is what is most sought after, the mythical 'chemistry' we consider as the modern definition of 'romance.'

Not feeling any of the above doesn't mean you're cold at all. Personally, I wouldn't blame you if a relationship isn't on your to-do list. It's not for everyone. It can bring as much joy as it can bring pain into your life, and that is a lesson I learned the hard way. I think that's what killed me the most inside, if we're being honest here. I'd still be open to it, but I'm not so trusting or very into the whole 'intimacy' game.

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