Dealing with loneliness · 11:46am Oct 7th, 2019
How do you deal with it? When you have so many acquiantances that love the same thing you do, and a few good friends, but yet your heart still aches for more. To know the comfort of a real hug, and not just an internet one. Constantly seeing couples getting all affectionate with each other, and rememebering you are alone. However, you used to be okay with that. You had almost given up on finding that perfect stallion. Yet you still try despite all the things against you to make your life mean something. Lately, I've been struggling. It's been hard to write, and when I do write it's a very slow burn. I am working hard on the next chapter of Bonds, however I am unsure if I'll be able to get it finished by the end of this week. Hopefully by end of October. It just feels like everything is falling apart and there's literally nothing I can do to make it better, and it just HURTS. Asking for prayers and comfort in this time of weakness. I'll come back stronger....
I'm really sorry to hear about this.
I guess I'm just mostly sad because I don't know how to help. I've been going through the same thing for about two years now. And I know it hurts.
Sending you love and prayers.
A
Put this time into looking after yourself, and not just health-wise. Give yourself a good time because damn, you deserve it. Befriend anyone and everyone who gives you the time of day. Say no less unless it puts you in danger. Don’t look for happiness in anyone else; look for it in yourself because that will help you find your smile.
You are strong, smart and awesome. Huge hugs, healing and strength sent your way. Don’t let the bastards beat you down.
All good things,
Scars
For me, loneliness comes and goes much like my hope of an eventual book publication. I have always tried to drown myself in the worlds I make and with the characters I breathe into existence, but the knock-back from publishers of them is just as painful as the rejection of another.
I truly understand where you are coming from with regards to writing. Lately, it has been much harder to grasp the desire and drive to continue, especially as I watch my parents age, a little more drastically than anyone would want their parents to.
There are other reasons for my own loneliness, but I don't need to air it here. Instead, I give the following:
What I have found is that having a very small group of core-friends irl that you can rely on helps to an extent. Not always a possibility for everyone and I understand that. My friends and I are all broken in our own ways and we may have been doing the same thing together once every week for more than a decade now (and have been mocked by a tertiary friend for it), but it gives us a chance to vent, de-stress and support each other. It isn't exactly a magic bullet, but works to some degree.
As Scaramouch said, you are strong, smart and awesome.
We will do our best to send some positivity your way.
Tael.
Honestly, the only thing I've found is to tell yourself that you don't care or are better off alone anyway. Is it healthy? Probably not. Does it likely bottle things up, ensuring that when that wave hits it's far worse? Almost certainly. But it makes right now better, and that's all that matters.
Or you could go all the way with it, go like Chris Chan. Not going to lie, as bizarre as he is I sometimes envy him. He is absolutely insane but he at least seems to keep happy with his imaginary friends.
I'm really sorry about that, if you want, you can PM me and talk it out, get it off your chest and all that, if you need someone to talk to, I'm more than happy to listen
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I wish I knew how to make it better as I understand that feeling all too well. After being with someone for ten years in the last year I have found myself alone and it's not easy. Everyday it gets easier in some ways and harder in others. I try to fill the void by spending time with friends and keeping busy, just distracting myself from it but whenever I have a moment alone it comes back no better than before. I wish I had real advice to give on how to deal with it but all I can offer you is my hope that things get better for you. That and an ear to listen. I'm always willing to to listen whether I have any way to help or not. Many of my friends have used me for just that since they know I will listen and not judge, not talk to anyone else about what they tell me, and will genuinely try to offer advice if they want it. Though I never claim that I have any answers. If you ever want to talk to someone I know you don't know me but I'm always willing to listen. And you can never have too many friends, right? I sincerely hope things get better for you.
Always here to talk Naliah, can't promise too much more. Chin up, shoulders back, chest out, you'll get through it.
Sending you some love and prayers I hope I and everyone else can cheer you up and make you feel more happy
I'm very sorry to hear this. You gotta keep pushing through, holding your head up high with a smile. Me and others are here if you just want to talk privately. I hope things get better.
The same way I deal with any problem. Understand what I want. Figure out how to get it. Enact a plan. Study my failure. Revise my strategy. Repeat.
Having a plan to address my problems makes those problems more bearable.
Sorry to hear you feel this way, I'm not sure how much help it'd be but if you ever need to chat feel free to send a PM
Sorry to hear that you’re not happy, Nailah. I hope you’ll be alright. Ik it’s not much, but still.
In the past, when I was feeling down, my cat has always helped me get through it. Until she got lost, that is
Now, I just try to embrace the loneliness and not think about it.