Looking for advice · 3:04am Oct 7th, 2019
Okay... I have no idea how to word this so I'll just say it. I'm bloody lonely. I've tried dating sites, and the like but... nothing; No real connection of any kind. I won't deny my own faults in the slightest. I'm anti social, and that's a big killer. I hate it when random people(or even co-workers) come up and start random conversations with me. I'm a cynical grump. I admit there is some fear. Fear of rejection, fear that she's just going to turn around and claim "Sexual or Domestic abuse" to ruin my life(guys have been fired from dream careers and kicked out of college because "Believe all wahmen!"). Fear that I can't provide.
Don't even get me started on political beliefs. One morning earlier this year, early summer if I recall correctly; I was chilling on my weekend at a local diner, enjoying some coffee, when I watch these out of state girls pull up next to my truck. They pointed at it, gagged and made a bunch of rude gestures(because I have conservative stickers on it). I wasn't offended, and far from surprised. They ordered some coffee and tried to crowd me since I was seated by the window facing one of my local mountain tourist traps. Then came the flirting. "Surely a guy as cute as you-." she started before I interrupted her. "Okay, listen. As flattered as I am, It would never get past a simple hello. I saw those gestures you made to MY truck. I watched you pull in, I see the Hillary/Bernie/Biden etc stickers on your car, and just for that, It would NEVER work, so I'll be blunt. Save your breath and just walk away." They left and pulled out before their coffee was delivered to my booth.
I know I came off as a grump, and could have been nicer, I get that. But respect is earned. Not freely given. The ONLY reason they approached me in the first place was because I was "Cute" and alone. I was a piece of meat. Don't respect the person for who they are, and no respect will be shown in kind. Make no effort to know the person, and no effort will be shown. I gladly make that effort and show respect, but if none is shown in kind, then why am I talking to you?
I've no issues when speaking to women. I'm not looking for flings or the like. I want something that should last. I believe the best relationships start from a friendship. I'm just so tired of being alone. I'm not looking for pity or sympathy. I could care less for either. I've tried getting out more, getting out of my shell, and the like, but all I see is girls either taken, or not my type. I'm looking for advice. I'm thinking about taking out a loan and going back to school part time. Partly so I can further my education but maybe also meet someone. I'm open to suggestions.
I feel for you. I'm a 23-year-old dude, and never, not once, have I ever been on a single date. It gets me feeling really down about myself at times. But, if it's any consolation, as in "misery-loves-company," this is a problem that seems to be becoming more prevalent over time. In fact, statistically, people are taking longer to get into serious relationships than ever before!
However, I think I may have found something to change my mind. Once I purchased access to this program and analyzed it in great detail... I was blown away. It's something I intend to use myself in the hopes of getting the girl of my dreams. Just something to consider, if you want to turn to some, well...dark measures...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-59SAxEMzic
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I've only been in 1 relationship... we were High School sweethearts back in 08. It ended about 6 years ago. Been alone ever since. It lasted a good while, and we parted on good terms. Thankfully neither of us has regrets. We're both in our late 20s entering our 30s now. Honestly I don't buy into that whole 'hack the mind' bull-puckey... Not only does it feel dishonest, it feels dishonorable, and even downright rude to an extent. That's assuming it even works. I'm honestly more afraid of not being a good enough provider, and that she's going to stab me in the back(Lord knows that's happened more than enough times to me in general). I've learned to be VERY careful who I call friend.