Men: Help! · 12:06pm Jun 2nd, 2016
There's this guy I "like" (I don't really think I like him anymore...) and he's super confusing. Apparently he is either super flirty with all of his friends or he doesn't care that he looks like he's cheating on his girlfriend. And before you all ask, no, I won't like a guy that thinks it's ok to cheat and/or look like cheating. So it was a crushed night for me last night. No pun intended, honestly.
I'll run y'all through the details. He hugged me to make me go get us some pizza (I would've gone to get it anyways, but free hugs). He insisted he was giving all of his friends hugs... But yeah. Idk. He also asked me to come to his concert... He sings and stuff. Four or three weeks before all of this, however, he gave me a note that said I was pretty on it. 
That's why I see all of this as flirting and not just being friends. He shared a piece of cake with me! Not on the same plate, but I mean, he offered to, and he cut me half of his piece... We freaking had "a date" if you think about us sitting in a room alone from everyone else and eating pizza and coke and cake. :T Idk guys... Is this normal, or am I just overreacting? And if it is normal, then what does all of that + the note mean? Is he using me to make his girlfriend jealous? But, if so, then why would he do it when she isn't even in the same room? I found out last night when a little kid walked in and saw our "date like thing" and asked if he still loved so-and-so. He replied with, "yeah, she's my girlfriend"... So, what...? 
Men, boys, anyone... Don't do this. It really hurts. Sorta. Luckily he was a half crush. Good thing I didn't know him too well or like him that much or it would've hurt. :P But seriously, what is happening?
Oh lord. Now may be a good time to write that story about objectification.
3991696 Yeah
I've already had bad luck with girls. I'm never trying anything as risky as this.
3991701 Besides, I know for a fact that Thunderbolt Sentinel is a real ladies man, and I don't think he'd successfully pull this stunt off anyway. It'd be dishonest and disloyal of him.
3991728 Wait, what? I'm...not with him
3991712 But, what do you think his motives are?
3991732 Alright.
3991744 Well, then again, he has his own woman, but he at least makes a credible effort at being respectful to her.
3991757 Yeah. Like, now that I know he (my crush) has a girlfriend, I suddenly don't like him as much.
I don't know.... I wouldn't trust that or at least be really cautious because if his girlfriend found out about this then it could or couldn't create massive drama between the two of you so I say just remain cautious.
Well if he has his own girlfriend and he's trying this stuff, then you should just ignore him. Anybody thinking it's okay to cheat, or flirt with others while they're already in a relationship isn't worth talking to.
Give him the benefit of the doubt.
Once upon a time, there was a girl I was friends with. She and I had met because we were mutual friends with someone else. We were both on the same Cross Country team, and one day, I noticed her lagging behind. She had never been a fast runner, and had been vocal about how she'd rather not be doing the sport. I slowed my pace and ran beside her, asking her what was up. It turns out she was having some other issues, and just didn't feel motivated to keep moving. I encouraged her to keep moving, and helped her get to our destination. Since this was Middle School XC, we were occasionally treated to popsicles, and today was one of those days. I got her one, it was a good day.
After that, it was a few months until anything happened. It was the Washington DC trip for the eighth grade, and she was visibly down. I asked her what was wrong, and she said she was "tired of life". I let her be for a few hours, and when we visited the DC mall, I got her a soft pretzel. After that little stunt, people started speculating. Nobody IRL knows I have an online relationship, so it sure looked like I was flirting with her, or at least showing interest.
The nail in the coffin occurred when her earbuds broke. She was crying, and I asked her why, and she said her earbuds broke. I'm not an idiot, so I knew she was crying over some other issue as well. I went out, bought her another pair, and left them in her locker. I think what killed it was that it was three days before Valentine's.
After that, she stopped talking to me. I can only assume it was because she thought I was interested, or out of embarrassment from the jokes literally everyone else in the grade were making.
Just wait it out and see if things escalate. That's my advice.
So, first off, I'm confused why exactly you're attracted to him if you barely know him. I suppose I'm in the camp that people should date those whom they've already been good friends with.
Anyway, I think you should at the very least ignore his actions: someone who is willing to act flirty to every girl he sees is not one I'd want to interact with. Oh, and as a guy myself, I'm disgusted by that kind of behaviour.
Secondly, is he even a Christian? Remember that it isn't really wise as a Christian to be in romantic relationships with non-Christians, merely because they don't have all the same values as we do. And if he is one, it'd be a good idea to call him out on his actions and also let his girlfriend know, as that is far from Christ-like behaviour.
Rush and Pony on!
T4E
3991804 Oh, wow, I'm sorry that it was taken that way
Maybe that's just what he's doing...? Idk... I hope. I don't want to start drama.
3991805 I know him. Not as long as I probably should, be we know each other pretty well (compared to the amount of time we see each other).
Yeah
Once I found out it hurt. Not because I had a huge crush (because I don't, I sorta liked him) but because his girlfriend was in the other room during all of this. It was weird... I mean, I wouldn't think anything of it all if he had never given my the note 
He's a Christian. (Supposedly.) Besides this, he acts like one.
3991818 Thanks for the clarification. I'd still let him know that his behaviour isn't appropriate, doubly so as a Christian. Seeing DerpyMuffin's reply, I would agree that it could be innocent, but still.
T4E
3991832 Yeah. And like I said, I wouldn't think twice about it if he had never given me the note. Idk, maybe he was single a month ago? But that would be awfully fast to get a gf while still having another crush. :T
3991745 A bet? For fun? Doesn't care/isn't truly committed? Ignorance? It varies.
3991961 That's true.
3991792 That's what I said
Hm. Well, I'd try and find out what his motives are. Until then, keep your distance. While what he's doing sounds a lot like flirting, you ought to give him the benefit of the doubt, innocent until proven guilty as they say.
Then again, I have no experience with dating and the like, but there's my two cents anyway.
3992251 Thanks ^^
3992253 You're welcome.
Talk about a toughy... have you asked him?
3992863 Not yet.
3992987 I think you need to sit down, and talk to him. Writing it out can help... give him a note. I've found letters are easier to communicate my emotions than actual words. However, in a lot of ways, it'll depend on you. You need to sit down and go, look, what are your intentions, and why are you treating me like this if you already have a girl friend.
he is ether super friendly or you are a back-up call. most likely he is a fuk boy.