Dec
22nd
2015
So as far as I can tell... · 6:06pm Dec 22nd, 2015
...venting is bad, crying is bad, talking about feelings is bad. The last one is especially bad because it makes other people feel bad. Instead you should just pull up your bootstraps and bury your feelings deep down because we all know how healthy that is.
Oh, and crying is blackmail because of course the only reason a person would cry in front of others is to manipulate people, and not at all because they can't hold in all their leaky emotions.
And feeling bad is an excuse for everything, apparently. Which as you can imagine, makes me feel great knowing that. *
*Obvious sarcasm is obvious.
Well that's wrong. Crying is a coping mechanism for humans so we can relieve stress. It helps you feel better, there is scientific evidence for it.
So whoever you're talking to is really really wrong. On all accounts.
Tater is right, crying makes you feel better. Whoever you're talking to most likely grew up with the mindset that crying was weakness. Vulnerability. etc. Venting is especially important, as some people can't bring themselves to cry, and venting is much easier. Talking about feelings is the MOST important out of all those. Shame on whoever rustled your jimmies. They have no idea what they're talking about.
Whoever told you these things was most likely hurt by someone after venting, crying, or talking about his/her feelings. Pain is usely translated as "bad" (and, is this instance, it probably was) so he/she now associates those actions with bad feelings because of one or many experiences. The trick is sharing with the right person. And most of the time it's hard to find that person. I hope this helped.
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Thanks. I've heard it a lot in my life, and it's directed at me for crying or being upset over something, and I've heard it so often from various friends and family that I'm beginning to think the problem is me rather than the people telling me this stuff.
I'm pretty bummed about it to put it extremely mildly.
3637167 I can tell you right now, with the utmost certainty possible, the fault is not yours. Feeling feelings is a part of being human. Honestly? You just need to find a real friend. A friend whose willing to listen to your problems, and help if you ask for it. If they say it's bad for you to do all that stuff, then maybe they're not true friends. Most of the time, friends and family are the only ones you can go to when you're feeling down, so I can see why it sucks not to have that. I say friends and family should always be there for you whenever you need them, no matter the problem, or no matter whether it makes them uncomfortable.
I'm even willing to fill said role, but can understand if it's declined. It takes trust for stuff like that, and I don't even know you.
Breathe
It's healthy to vent, cry and have/show emotions.
If for any reason you need to; PM me