Today, I stood up to my dad...and it felt amazing. · 10:46pm Jul 25th, 2015
So I was helping my dad to thread some wires under our outdoor patio roof for some lights he's put inside of some plastic meshing, and he asks me to pass him a 'plastic piece'.
Now, he's holding a plug without the plastic cover on it, so I assume he meant the cover to the plug. I go for it and I hear him behind me grunting in anger, which usually means that I was not getting what he wanted, which is not my fault when he just says 'plastic piece' and not what the thing was he actually wanted, right?
Next thing I know I feel a fist come down on top of my head, so I get in his face and I point my finger at him in a 'don't you dare' kind of way. I said nothing to him, just put my finger out to warn him not to do that to me again.
He took it quite well, I think, because next thing he does is he throws a hand up to my throat and pushes me backwards against some plastic sheeting (don't worry we didn't crack it) and he spouts what I think were supposed to be threats to me, but he has said so much crap about me before that it comes out as a trombone sound, like in the Snoopy cartoons.
Now, it may not seem like that big a deal to you what I'm about to say, but for me it was a massive breakthrough in my confidence...
I actually brought my hand up to his arm that was holding me, and I swatted it aside and pushed him back. In that one moment, I felt so powerful and amazing, because I have never done that to him before. For the first time in a long time, I made a stand against my dad, denied him the control he's tried to assert over me for so long.
He stood there wide-eyed, but tried to hide his surprise by daring me to punch him, telling me that 'if you do, boy, it fucking better be a fucking good one!'
I didn't punch him. What was the point? Punching him would not have rewarded me with anything and to be honest, he wasn't worth it. I stared him down instead until he turned around and told me to fuck off. He's calmed down now, but he had better watch himself in the future.
Today, I felt so...incredible for a short moment. I stood up to the man who once intimidated me. Now he warrants no fear from me, but my pity.
My pity, because I feel sorry for him if I ever give him that punch he was asking for.
Have any of you guys and gals had a moment in your lives where you stood your ground and faced your enemy head on? Against an older sibling, or maybe a bully? If so comment below!
I've never really had bullies in my life.But anyway,so manly!Good job!
Congratulations
3269579 Thanks. I shouldn't really brag about it, but it just felt so good to take a stand. Now I feel like walking up to kids who are being abused by their own mothers and fathers and just telling them, "You don't deserve this crap, little guy. Take my cricket bat. Fight back!"
I wouldn't of course, cause' I don't want to put the kid in danger of extreme violence, but you get where I'm coming from, right?
I want to tell other people to stand up to their bullies. You don't have to fight back, just stand up and show them their abuse means jack shit to you anymore.
In fact, I will.
EVERYONE! If you are being bullied by other people, take a stand! Push them back and show them you're not afraid of them anymore! Show them why they should be afraid of you and not the other way around!
Your power grows stronger...
3269598 But I haven't absorbed the demon's soul yet?
Also, fuck you Flamer Lurker! Exploding fiery demon cheap-ass boss. Really hard to kill on a Soul Level 1 run.
XD He actually reminds me of my dad now I think about today. XD
Heh, kinda makes your dad sound like a jerk. Almost reminds me of how my own dad used to treat me...but not quite.
Your dad beats you? Jesus, man. I didn't know. But good for you for standing up to him. Though if he's really abusing you then you might wanna tell someone else. Like the bobbies.
3269615 He's usually okay most of the time, but he gets really nasty even over small things like his sandwich not having the butter spread perfectly, or there being no vinegar to go with his chips.
I tolerate his mood all the time, even when he twice so far in my life held scissors up to my face because we were struggling to put up a gazebo for a party. Today, just knocking his rm aside and getting his hand off my throat felt exhilarating.
I hope it never comes to it because I'm more a lover than a fighter, but if I ever have to lay a smack down on him, I'll do it. Win or lose, every punch and kick will hit their mark. I only hope it doesn't turn me into something I try not to be, because they way I am now is the me that people seem to like the most. So I'll avoid confrontation unless I really have no other option.
3269615 Also, I'm sorry to hear that. How is your dad a jerk to you?
3269636 No. He doesn't beat me. If anything he just ignores me unless he needs me for something. And if I don't understand something he tells me to do, or if I get the wrong thing for him, he gets very angry quickly. Only when he and I are doing anything DIY-related together and there's nobody around to see him act up, that's when he would hurt me and call me names, but it's not often thankfully.
Really, I kinda applaud his effort to hurt me, because his attempt to insult me with names was appalling. There's only so many times you can get called a 'thick cunt' before it loses all of its meaning.
We mostly tolerate each other's existence nowadays. I do have sympathy for him since I'm the ONLY person he's ever told the story of how his own father died to, but even so, respect for him or not, I'm done taking his crap when he gets angry over the smallest of things.
And I advise all of you reading this now do the same thing. Don't let other people push you about. It takes courage to stand up to an enemy, but takes more to stand up to your friends and family. Love your mother and father and siblings, but NEVER be afraid to put them in their place if they are in the wrong.
Great job on standing up to him. I'm glad that the insults meant nothing, but it also saddens me to know that he's called you them so many times before that they ended up losing all meaning. I mean, it shows that you had to suffer so much before that it made you kinda numb to it. It's... Depressing. But, I'm proud of you for standing up against him, and refusing to stoop to his level! That takes a LOT of courage, and not many people can do that.
3269728 A part of me wanted to punch. But what was there to gain from it? Nothing. I'll punch him when he's deserving of it, but until then he's gonna have to do an awful lot better to get that honor from me.
And I have to be honest, at least the insults losing their meaning means that it's a lot harder for other people to do the same thing, so something good - albeit unintentionally - came out of it.
Don't you take shit from other folk yourself, you got that? Don't let people bully you, whether they do it to be jerks or because they can't control their anger or whatever reason. Put them in their place, and if you have to defend yourself, do it.
Never let them have the final victory.
3269728 And don't be saddened. Like I said, at least now very very few insults can get to me thanks to him. I care more about others who are being insulted than myself now.
I had this bully in 6th grade that used to take a ruler out and whip me with it then beat me up. One day I just so happened to be wearing a belt so as he came at me, I pulled it out and whipped him across the face. I guess the adrenaline got to me because i, a 6th grader, chased an 8th grader around the school, whipping him with the belt. Best thing though? Teachers actually did not give a single crap and let me go! ^~^
3269791 Nice to hear, dude!
Say, did you ever get around to having that talk with your mom yet? Like I said it'll do you a lot of good to have it with her and get those troubles off your mind.
And without sounding like a hasty douchebag here, will you be able to sing those lyrics again yet? And with the new line I PM'ed you?
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Haven't gotten around to talking to her.
But I will be recording the lines tonight! ^~^ Just got back from a trip so yeah
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I probably would have said something like "Plastic piece? There are quite a few pieces of plastic around here. You're going to have to be more specific." instead of assuming what he meant was the cover thing like you did. You know what they say about assuming things.
3269820 The sooner you sit down with her and talk your problems out with her, the sooner she'll understand you more, dude. Trust me.
You've got my email, of course. You know where to send the lines when you're done. But remember - do the best you can do.
Many blessings of fortune and good health to you, friend, and to all other amazing people I'm honored to know here. :)
3269861 But it was the ONLY thing there. And he's not a patient person.
Actually, now that you bring the plastic piece thing back up, I still don't know what the plastic piece he wanted was at all.
But It's best left in the past now. I just want people to read this log post and maybe feel inspired themselves to stand up to their own demons, though god forbid they have any of their own.
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I understand
3269886 Row, row, fight da powah!
Pierce the fookin' heavens with yo drill!
You should've racked him in the nuts.
I would guess he has no idea that your writing has garnered some level of acclaim, or that your videos just reached 100K views? Or that he wouldn't understand the inherent significance of successfully and independently developing skills and interests that appeal to you?
I'm sorry for where you're at. It sounds like a relationship that just... isn't. And that's the greatest loss in the long run. But for you, in your life, it's a great day. You've risen above your circumstances, and the violence they might push you toward.
3269638 He's not a jerk anymore. My parents split up a few years back, so my siblings and I started visiting him two or three years ago. He would kinda push all of us around a bit, I felt, and I couldn't really do anything about it. Being only 15, I couldn't legally choose to not visit, because it was court ordered for all four of us to go, unless he gave us his consent to stay with our mom. I used to have a really bad attitude about visiting and stayed home whenever I could.
I wish I could take it back now...
I remember one time there was a bully, so I bought a pineapple every day and put it at his front door. Then i found his house key and started putting them in his room. Kid starts freaking out. Legitimately scared of pineapples.
Mail him 12 pineapples for Christmas
Kid stops coming to school every day after second semester starts. Found out he had an anxiety attack in the grocery store because someone misplaced pineapple in the milk section.
Revenge is sweet.
Its rare that im angry(Rage mode) and generaly im not a violent person.Because i didnt want to be like my dad that i hate.
Im the patient kind of guy and can take a load of shit before exploding and its not always a good thing because i can't bring myself to stand my ground and assholes tend to want to see my breaking point.
When they reach it,i can't control myself and bash their face.When i lose it nothing is more important to me then seeing their face in blood.
I think it happen to me 4 or 5 time in my life.
Sure i didnt kill anybody that would just be the stupid things to do but sure did damage.
There was this one guy at school.Him and his gang kept bullying me for years because i had glasses and other stuff.
But one day him and one of his friend decide it would be fun to rob something important to me and break it in front of me by throwing it in the stairs while calling me a faggot.
I became really angry.
I don't remember all that was said but i remember they told me"We don't hit people with glasses,Fagget"
I fucking lose it
Next thing i know i was throwing my glasses in his face before pushing his friend down the stairs.After that i jump on im and bash his face.
There was nothing glorious,epic or anything about it but once i had finish i felt like shit because i didnt want to be violent like my dad
But god was i feeling good and proud to know i had fight and win against this asshole
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.He's still the biggest asshole ever.
Unlike what we see in movies,the guy never changed
OH!!!Before you ask,my glasses survived
But thats a story for another time.
For anybody who read this if i'd put one moral to this story it would be this.
Don't do like i did,don't keep you emotions inside because the damage you will do when you release them might be more then attented.
and it eat you bit by bit until you can't take it anymore.
Sure i don't ask you to jump on everybody who dare to make you angry
but talk about it
Really don't do like i did
i hope it doesnt annoy you when my comment are this long i tend to write to much as you can see.
Anyway,i must go,my people need me
That's amazing! We're all so proud of you!
A truly inspiring story.
My dad is a mental manipulator, he gets in your head and makes you do things you know you probably shouldn't and feel bad for doing things you know are right. For the past few years, he had been guilting my little sister and I to stay with him and less time my mum, until a few months ago, I just couldn't take it anymore, and told him to stop being such a user, and walked out his front door, called my mum to get me out of there, and I've been staying with her since. I soon realised I had inspired my little sister to stand, because just a couple weeks later, she did almost the exact same thing.
My dad has calmed down since then, and we've worked some things out.
Eh, Bravo!
I can't express how much this blog pleases and upsets me.
Wish my father were that tame when I was younger, I guess.
I had to grow up 12 years in my father's violent suppression before I actually stood up to him with any success.
After that, he was much tamer. Still violent, but. Tamer.
I guess I just wrote this to break my habit. It's been less than a year since I last saw my father, but I'm still not sure wether I should have a social life. Not sure how or whether I realistically can either.
... Whatever, I'm getting closer to a feeling of emotional panic. What with re-erasing again and again. In a way, father tought me to self-suppress my expression; I tend to end up believing what I express would at best be ignored or down someone's mood, unless I filter it. But filtering it means I'll never express some of what I feel. I atleast plan to cut the line of child-beaters I am a part of.
Honestly, I feel guilty for attempting to post this. But anyways. These blogs are quite nice so far. I especially like the tags on this one.
For kids, I'd say one recommendation is to not obey blindly, atleast. And also to know that the best of the obvious ain't always good.
Personally I've had a reason to die since pretty young; extreme emotional discomfort. But I'm already much better than back then. I can still die telling myself I'm worthless and the world's better without, but I still disagree with doing that. This thing's still got time to waste, things to try. I just hate how hard it is with the more chancy emotions when you've got no support and no valid role-models.
But yeah, whatever happens, don't accept to live what ain't worth living. And quit to being uncomfortable, do what you would want. I don't call that courage, but rather personal grit. One must always stand for oneself. That is how one learns what respect is. And respect is one of the best things to share. So yeah, never be afraid to stand.
--Im'ma hope I don't regret writing this. I'm too used to being secular. Last mention; I believe respect shouldn't be given in fear. Pretty much the only thing that rouses me is when someone reclaims a due through self-proclaimed authority or power. However important or dumb, it just bothers. And I believe feeling unwell or less free to avoid pain is just, not ambitious enough.
--PS. Sorry if that's all scrambled up. I'm still too emotionally unconfidant to communicate clearly. Gotta fix that before I write anything serious. That's why I hate my lack of... friends. Embarrassing as it is, I need target practice.
3270120 Did you mean this greentext?
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3270216 Don't be an idiot! Of course you should have a social life! You deserve one! Don't be afraid to establish connections with new people you meet!
3270171 There is a time to fight, and there is a time to keep your cool. But the fact that you regretted your actions because you worried you'd wind up the same way as your dad shows you're better than him, because you understand the concept of moral and consequences of actions. You are a sign of maturity.
3270075 I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know what the right words are to say to make you feel better. I hope a hug will cheer you up at least.
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My favorite!
3270216 We all have a purpose for living. Sometimes we need to give ourselves that purpose.
Me? I live to make others happy, to cheer them up however I can. I'm not a great comedian, but if and when I make someone chuckle, or laugh out loud, I can smile and say proudly that I made that happen.
3270189 Congratulations, man. I hope things will stay on track between you and him. No child should have to live without a father figure, but even so no child should have to fear their fathers.
Sometimes our fathers are the way they are because of their own pasts. We should keep that in mind when we stand up to them, and make them understand the error of their ways towards us when they are in the wrong.
3269963 I think he does know, but has a very hard time showing it.
He's not entirely a bad person. He can be good. It's just that he has a very ugly temper and gets angry over trivial things like, as I mentioned here, the confusion he caused me over what he meant by 'plastic piece'.
I respect him for reasons I keep to myself, but yesterday I now know I won't ever have to back down from him if he starts again. I have two legs and two feet. It was about time to use them and stand on them.
I'm posting this from a friend's account, because I don't want this of all things tied to my name.
I've never managed to stand up against my worst enemy. Not something soppy like "Because my worst enemy is my own demons." But because he always has the upper hand.
Backstory; I live in a family of six. My brother & his girlfriend, my father & his girlfriend, me, and my sister. My brother is six-seven years older than me (We're 6 years and 6 months apart.)
My worst enemy? My brother.
When I was four year olds (Aka; He was thirteen.) My brother raped me, and It took me up until I was thirteen to even realize It. By then, It was far, far too late for me to even try and do anything about It.
But my father has his trust in my brother, and no trust in me, so I'm pretty much screwed. I'm going to kill my brother one day, though. Revenge is best served cold. Cold, and old. I'm going to murder him on his wedding day. He's a reckless driver, so all I have to do is rip the brakes out of his car. Breaking the brakes. It's merely a question of time, but for now, I'll act as if I've forgotten, I'll act like just another shade in the Darkness that encases my life.
~ If you know whom I am, do not tell anyone. This is not something I want attached to me.
3270698 Every action everyone has made has a backstory to it, both the good and the bad. To learn of these stories is to remember that they are also human, and thus should be treated as such.
3270654 thanks
That burning feeling when your confession goes ignored. Ah well. C'est la vié.
3270654 Hugs are nice.
I don't have any stories to relate, but I'm glad you stood up for yourself.
3270722 If your brother did this.He's an asshole.An asshole full of acne,infections and shit.
I would'nt tell you to kill him though.
I could slap your wrist and make you a speech about familly,prison and all that fun stuff but what would it change.
Anyway im not the best example for this.God know how much i hate my father for what he did to me and my familly.
But im not saying to let him get away with this.It would just be better to find a better solution then killing
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Its a decision you need to do yourself and nobody can change your mind.
3270884 Whoever you were using your friends account, do not contemplate murdering your brother for what he did to you, and neither your father for not believing your word against your brother. They are not deserving of death so easily, least of all at your hand.
You have a voice. Speak out to someone who will listen. Do not let their actions turn you into a monster worse than they were to you. Do you want to be better than them, or just as disgusting and lowly as them?
Make your choice, sir/madam. I shall pray to God and Celestia that you pick the right one.
3272004 There is no one that will listen. The fucked up country I live in? You get twenty two DAYS of community service for raping an underaged person. There's no justice in this world other than what you make yourself.
3273114 Very well then. Go on. Go ahead and kill him if you want. Go and be that big strong murdering creature you wish to be so much. See how many people applaud your heroism for murdering your brother instead of finding someone who will hear your voice.
I hoped you would make the right choice. But if this is the path you want to walk down, then so be it. I can't stop you even if I wanted to.
3273168 Unique... You're literally doing the polar opposite of helping the issue.
3273691 See PM...