Dear Princess Cadence, Lately I’ve been feeling that something is missing from my life.
I used to keep myself locked in my house or in the library studying but recently an old friend taught me a lesson about friendship, after stalking me and generally being kind of creepy, I might add.
After that I made some friends and fixed things up with my family and generally mended my damaged social life, with help from my friends of course. Now I’m doing well, studying and books aren’t the only things on my mind anymore, I go out a lot more, I’m more social, my house isn’t a dump, it’s great!
Like I said though something is missing, I feel like there’s a hole in me that can’t be filled with just friendship. I think that I need romance in my life.
The thing is I don’t know the first thing about stallions, dating or relationships, how do I meet a stallion? How will I know he’s The One? How do I get him to like me? How do I know if he likes me? I’m freaking out just thinking about it, I be a total mess trying to talk to a stallion in real life.
I’ve read some books on the subject but none of them were very helpful for the few times I tried to get a stallion’s attention. I’m so lost; the whole concept of love and romance is so foreign to me. Please help me.
Sincerely, Clueless.
Dear Clueless, you sound a lot like someone I know, do you happen to know someone called Twilight Sparkle?
Now, it’s normal for a mare to need a little love in her life, I of all ponies appreciate that. What’s not so normal is being as completely unprepared and oblivious as you seem to be, most ponies know something about romance.
Well, I can’t help you in real life, I do have a kingdom to run but I can give you a brief crash course on romance and dating. I’ll start by answering your questions.
How do you meet stallions? Easy, there are stallions everywhere, ask you friends to introduce you to some or go to a social gathering and socialize a bit.
How do you know he’s The One? As cheesy as this sounds, follow your heart. You’ll just know, it may take a while or it might be love at first sight; it’s different for everyone.
How do you get him to like you? You want a stallion who loves you for who you are, so just be yourself. It does help to pay some attention to your appearance, because, lets face it, stallions like pretty mares, though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, a mare one stallion thinks is gorgeous might be repulsive to another. What I’m trying to say is, try to look nice but keep it simple, maybe wear colors that suit you or do something with you mane. The idea is to stay true to yourself, if you have to change yourself for a stallion then he probably isn’t the one because he’ll never truly love the real you.
Now that I’ve answered those I have a one point to go over, talking to stallions. You mentioned being concerned about talking to stallions, don’t worry; most ponies get tongue-tied around individuals they find attractive. The most important thing is to stay calm, if you panic you’ll most likely say something dumb and make the wrong impression, it may help you to prepare a list of generic questions to ask in such situations. Get to know him better, ask about his hobbies, his favorite food, things like that, while your making idle conversation you can get a feel for his personality too.
Remember you can always ask for help from your friends and family, just be careful about asking your parents for advice though, sometimes they have weird old fashioned ideas about romance. I asked my aunts for advice once; it was probably the worst decision of my life.
If you need any more advice feel free to write, I’m always happy to help.
Love, Princess Cadence.