Just Thought I'd Take This Time to Crow a Bit... · 1:52am Aug 8th, 2014
Today's my tenth wedding anniversary. That means the woman I've been with for a dozen years now (trust me, the math works) still loves me enough to stay with me for a over a decade and all of a decade in legally-confined bliss. Today, that's an accomplishment. I come from a divorced family like many of you out there (Mom's happily married to her second husband; Dad was on the ropes with number five when he passed away), so being married longer than they were together (seven years) is, to me, a pinnacle. I hope to reach the level of wedding bliss that my in-laws have - forty-three years and counting.
It also says something else. Marriage isn't a fifty/fifty thing. It's all or nothing - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you really love the person to stay with them and commit to a life together (marriage or not), then you really have to work at it. And it won't be easy: sometimes, my wife has been a bitch, while other times, I've been a royal asshat. It's all in the "fun" of being human. But if you really care for someone, you'll work it out. Because that person is worth more than your own ego or selfishness.
Maybe this will resonate with some of you out there. Maybe it won't. Understandable; marriage isn't for everyone, even the ones who want a lifetime commitment with someone else. But I will say this much: having a life with someone else, someone you can share everything with, and someone who you can have arguments whether Pinkie is best pony or not, is the best thing you can have.
The 10th anniversary is the aluminum anniversary. Buy her a can of soda!
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Right now I am happy being single but I do know the strength that comes out of being married. My parents have been happily married for nearly 40 years while my brother and sister-in-law have been married for 7. If there is one thing Dumbledore got right it is that Love is a powerful force, and from MLP Love is more powerful than hate, and more powerful then even friendship.
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Naw, love is what you get when friendship takes a level in badass
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Did - got a twenty-four pack of Cherry Coke by her feet right now.
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friendship is the foundation on which romance is built on
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And you were so close, too.
Dr Pepper is the nectar of the gods, and is always the correct answer.
Congrats on the anniversary.
Personally, I'll pass on marriage, given the ways the current laws are heavily stacked against me. I also don't think you need a piece of paper to commit to anyone. Personally, I prefer to keep my money and assets that I've worked for if the relationship doesn't work out.
Sure, in a fairy tale, I can see some positives in marriage, but that isn't the real world.
I also think in some sense, not being married actually makes a relationship more healthy. Because you can't be trapped in a bad relationship anywhere near as easily, it makes negative behaviour far more risky. That may sound rather cynical, but there are sadly plenty of people who will do just that.
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I think you missed the part where I said:
I'm fully aware that not everyone's going to choose marriage, for one reason or another. Or common-law marriages, or civil unions or the equivalent. One of the couples (celebrity-wise) that I admire most is Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn. They've been together for thirty-one years, none of it married. That is just as strong a commitment as I've given my wife and I would never gainsay otherwise.
What I am saying ultimately is one you are married to (and I mean that in the sense of linking your life with someone, not necessarily actual matrimony), then you have an obligation to make it work as best as you can. There's a reason my mother has been married to my stepfather now for thirty years, and my father was legally separated from his fifth wife when he passed away - because in the former case, they made it work...and in the latter case, he never did.
That's not to say that bad marriages that are beyond repair should stay together, not saying that at all. Just saying that people should work to ensure that it (hopefully) never gets to that point.
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I'm not disagreeing with your comment, just offering some general commentary and my own personal feelings.
Any relationship takes work to maintain (romantic or not), and I agree that if you're really committed then you'll try to work through problems. But of course, this requires the same level of commitment from both parties.
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Damn straight it is
Happy anniversary to you and your wife Shinzakura! May you both have many, many more anniversaries in the future!
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Fair enough.
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God bless 13 years to my best friend
Congratulations to the both of you! And may you share many more years of wedded bliss!
I will not tell you to value every day like it was the last, but I will say the following: Never take her for granted. Ask her, every now and then, if she's happy. And make her if she's not.
And fuck weeded bliss! Be actually sure that you are actually happy with each other! Being friends with an ex is more worthwhile than being so-so with a wife!
Well a very big congrats to you and Mrs Shinzakura! Based solely on some of the things you've said/posted, you seem to be a pretty lucky guy. I hope one day to have what you have!
Congratulations! I know first hand how hard it can be to stay married that long. And how much work it takes on both sides.
Next month my wife and I will have our 18th anniversary. Last year she gave an anniversary cake with a Rarity figure on top. "Because it seems like a marriage that lasts this long is a rarity these days."
So anyhow, Happy Anniversary and all that. And again congratulations to you and your wife.
My only question, is which one of you think Pinkie Pie ISNT best pony?